What Guys Want In A Girlfriend

According to the most recent AskMen Great Male Survey, 66 percent of respondents believe in the institution of marriage and 48 percent say that it’s important for a girlfriend to have “wife potential.” What exactly does that entail? Well, we took a closer look at the top three traits mentioned in the survey that indicate if a woman is relationship material.

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34 percent of respondents voted loyalty as the most important personality trait in a woman who has relationship potential. This means not only being faithful (obviously important), but it also means being there for your guy when he needs you most and standing by him when things are tough. Guys might act tough, but they want someone who they can lean on and trust when they need it.

Real men speak: "When I lost my job last year, my girlfriend stuck by me. She made me feel like everything was going to be OK and I appreciate that," a 33-year-old from upstate New York tells us about his relationship of four years.

Sense of humor

25 percent listed a sense of humor as tops on their list, and why not? Life without laughter is a pretty boring life. If you can make your man laugh and laugh with him, you're much more likely to keep him interested and build a stronger bond.

Real men speak: "I love that my wife can laugh at herself, no matter what the situation is. I hate it when girls take themselves too seriously," says a 39-year-old we talked to from Portland.

Someone who's caring

22 percent of respondents listed this trait – a sense of caring and nurturing – as their top relationship trait. While you should never act like your guy's mom and do everything for him, being caring is obviously important. Take note of when he's had a rough day and see if he wants to talk, rub his back and make him feel like he's loved.

Real men speak: "I'm not a suck like some guys, but I always love when my girlfriend takes care of me when I'm sick," says a 28-year-old from Chicago who has been with his girlfriend for three years.

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Comments on "Are you relationship material? 3 Things he's looking for"

Veronica March 08, 2013 | 5:05 PM

Loved this! They also need that spark and connection. To me, that's so important, but of course honesty is a must.

Amy November 24, 2012 | 10:53 AM

Someone who's caring! My husband wants to know I appreciate him, care about him, and love him. It's great to laugh together too!

Leslie September 20, 2012 | 10:41 AM

These are definitely great qualities that men would want. It's not everything, though. I think first and foremost you have to have that "connection" with someone, which can be hard to come by. Relationships take work and you need to make sure you click.

Tiffany July 02, 2012 | 4:50 PM

I agree with Emma - it's so fun to know what men actually look for in a relationship. It's great to know that "Hot Body" isn't on this list! Deep down, men know that they want a girl who is their best friend to marry. They need someone they can talk to, trust, and someone who will take care of them!

Erica June 27, 2012 | 12:14 PM

I think that for the most part, women look for these traits in men as well. They seem to be universal must-haves!

Emma May 18, 2012 | 4:31 PM

These are all really great qualities to have to hopefully snag the perfect mate. I think its so fun to hear what guys really want in a woman. Funny thing, I think I have these qualities but am still unmarried, what the heck?! Patience has never really been my virtue.

Amanda January 25, 2012 | 10:33 AM

All of my guy friends say a girl who can make them laugh as well as carrying those nurturing mother-like qualities is a keeper!

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