Woman contemplating texting her ex

Even though you might be tempted to call or text your ex – don't. Resist the urge to waste your time trying to reconnect with a guy who wasn't good for you.

Put down that phone

Before you reach for your phone, take a look at our list of all the things you can do instead of getting in touch with your ex.

Hang out with your best guy friend

Not only will this be a good distraction, but spending time with your best guy friend is a great way to get a guy's perspective on what it's like to constantly get texts and calls from an ex-girlfriend. The idea here is for him to talk you out of doing that. Plus you can vent to him about the relationship and see if he has any fresh insight to offer on what might have gone wrong.

Get cooking

Even if you're not a dynamo in the kitchen, finding a delicious-looking recipe, shopping for the ingredients and then creating a dish you've never tried before is a productive way to spend a couple of hours. If you feel a desire to call or text your ex coming on, surf on over to a site like Tastespotting or Foodgawker -- or SheKnows! -- and choose something yummy to make. Better yet, invite your BFFs over to taste your creation.

Hit the gym

Sweating it out is always a good distraction (and a great way to relieve post-breakup stress). Logging an hour on the treadmill or hitting a fun fitness class will make you feel great – and the better you feel about yourself, the less likely you will be to give in to texting your ex. Crunch (with numerous locations across the U.S.) has unique classes like Broadway Dance, Surfboarding and Pole Dancing for a serious distraction.

Get a manicure

Going through a breakup is hard, so why not treat yourself? Doing something just for you is a great replacement activity for texting a deadbeat ex. Think of it as a reward for all the hard work you put into dealing with him in the first place.

Call your BFF

She's someone who should be able to talk some sense into you and advise you against doing something you'll regret. Even though picking up the phone to call your ex may seem like a great idea, you'll most likely regret that decision. Let a friend talk you out of it. And then go dancing!

Dance it out

Another fun way to break a sweat, dancing around your living room to your favorite song is sure to make you feel better and less like reaching for the phone to text your ex. Bust out your best moves and jump around like crazy. If you're feeling particularly energetic, invite some friends over for an impromptu dance party.

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Comments on "6 Things to do instead of texting your ex"

marg October 31, 2013 | 7:37 PM

Sorry dont agree i mean yes dont tex but getting down to cooking or anything else no sorry because i find i cant be bothered cooking going out or doing anythink i just want to sleep and cry ,ive tried excersise no good couldnt concentrate and i dont want to go out in case i see him or even see him with someone else . I hate him for what he's done all i want to do is kill him hurt him badly in any way i dont care how but even that ive said horrible things to him so he will hurt suppose it must mean i still care and he will come back but then i think when he does come back i dont really want him back so why do i think i do ?i think iam just being evil really because i only want him back to hurt his feelings he deserves it . I know its not the ans because ive took him back plenty of times even after 2yrs once it will never happen again i know that because i no i wont let it i just want him to come crawling back again so i can let him see i dont want him and its not out of anger and rejection its because of all the horrible things he as done to me

Hannah September 19, 2012 | 11:41 AM

Great advice! Basically, do anything accept call or text! I always tell myself "Today I won't call/text." Just get through today, and then you can worry about tomorrow, tomorrow.

Amanda January 25, 2012 | 10:29 AM

Definitely agree with this article! My personal favorite is to look up new recipes and spend my time cooking up meals for me and my girlfriends! Not only do I feel accomplished, but knowing I didn't sit there debating on calling him feels even greater...

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