3 Ways to be a better sister this year

My sister rocks because she is always honest! She tells you how it is and how she feels. Sometime that can be really hurtful and cause a rift, but because she is my sister I know it comes from a place of true caring and love. We have to "agree to disagree" from time to time, but as we have grown older we have been able to set boundaries and really understand each other and where we stand. It's great!

G, that's a great question. Financial issues are always really tricky, especially when they involve family members. It's definitely not fair to you that your sister expects you to just pay for her lifestyle. As sisters, we often give more to our sisters than we would friends, since they're family members, but no person should feel like they're a cash cow. I would have an honest and open conversation with your sister and tell her how she's making you feel. Mention something like "I'm happy to help you when you're in need, but I can't always fund your debts since I have my own lifestyle I need to maintain." Make it clear that you want her to be happy and get back on track, but that your financial assistance is only making her more dependent. Sometimes, we have to do tough things in life like cutting off people emotionally or financially to help them get the help they need. Suggest that your sister seek alternate means of assistance -- a loan, a new job to make more money, etc. -- so she can help herself out of the situation. Make it clear that you're not abandoning her, but that she needs to consider how she makes you feel when you're constantly asking her for money. It can be tough when a sister is condescending, and I think we've all been there! Sometimes sisters have this odd jealousy and competition between them that they can't even explain themselves. The best thing you can do is stand up for yourself. Personally, I"m the more outspoken sister in my family and I'm always willing to call out someone who's picking on me. I know it can be difficult to do that, but you need to respect yourself enough to tell your sister that you don't appreciate the way she constantly puts you down. Tell her how her behavior makes you feel and just be honest. Set boundaries and walk away from the situation if don't want to have an argument. Tell your sister that you'd be happy to discuss the situation when she's in a calm mood, and give her some time to blow off some steam. I hope that helps!

How do you become a better sister when your sister made choices for her self financially and in personal like that leave her needy financially on a regular basis and does not have the funds to pay her debts back to you and expects you to donate to her whenever she asks. How to you become a better sister when your sister is constantly condescending and fault finding and wants to argue.

My sister is the best person to go to for advice!