Obsessed With Finding Your Soul Mate

Believe it or not, being in a relationship isn't going to solve all your problems. In fact, an obsession with finding love is emotionally unhealthy. Read on to find out if you are obsessed with finding love and learn what you can do about it.

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Looking for "the one"

It's perfectly normal to be on the lookout for a compatible partner. Everyone wants companionship and love. However, if your life has become an obsessive search for finding "the one" or your soulmate, you may be doing yourself more harm than good.

Choosing unhealthy relationships

Women who are obsessed with finding love often end up in relationships that are emotionally or physically unhealthy. Once in such a relationship, no matter how bad it gets, they'll do anything to hang onto it. These women often try to control their partners with sex, money, food, emotions and any other means possible in order to keep the relationship. Even in situations of abuse, they blame themselves and try to fix their relationship by walking on eggshells and catering to their partner's every whim.

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Attaching too soon

Women with poor self-image or other underlying emotional issues often attach themselves to a partner very quickly with no regard to their real compatibility. These people believe they cannot function or aren't worthy human beings if they are not in a relationship. If you find yourself attaching too soon or "falling in love" with every man you meet, you need to address your own issues. If you attach too soon, you'll come across as desperate and needy. Even if your current partner happens to be a compatible mate for you, he will soon be put off by your obsessive, desperate behavior.

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Love yourself first

Before you can be in a healthy relationship, you need to change the way you feel about yourself. Spend some significant time without having a boyfriend or partner. Discover activities that you enjoy doing alone. Work on creating a positive self-image and finding things that you love about yourself. You don't need to always have a man in your life. By taking a break from the dating scene, you can learn to enjoy your time alone and discover what you really need from your next relationship.

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If you confuse obsession or lust with love, it can lead to a very destructive pattern. Learn to value and respect yourself and the platonic relationships in your life rather than always keying in on finding love.

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Comments on "Are you obsessed with finding love?"

collprin June 01, 2013 | 6:14 PM

of course it will. there are thousands of females who are no longer crazy or suicidal because they found a lover. it solves a lot. and a relatonship is one of the most important momments in our life. like food. everyone needs it. why do you think it's so great when someone dates a disabled person? because it is so cool they love them dispite a deformity or brain disorder.

Shelly January 10, 2013 | 3:17 PM

I have a lot of friends that immediately dive into a new relationship after an old one's ended. I don't get it. It is important to be single at some points in life to find out who you are and what you want.

Amy July 08, 2012 | 6:11 PM

Loving yourself first is what you need to know if whether or not you're relationship ready. Do you think highly of yourself? Do you accomplish goals you set for yourself? Get out there and live life! I believe that those who love and believe in love, find love, not those who just "want" it and search for it.

Emma May 25, 2012 | 2:55 PM

Take the time to find out who you am and what you need so you are better prepared for the next relationship. You will be of no value to a partner if you don't love yourself first. That doesn't mean being selfish, but it does mean holding yourself to a high standard and knowing what you want. You will be a better mate if that is the case.

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