How Your Friends Affect You

Your friends are the family you choose. What do your relationships with friends say about you?

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You're always with them

Let's face it, lady. You only have so much time, and you can't spend it all in one place. It's great to have a group of friends you like to be with, but devoting all your time to your girlfriends isn't going to get you anywhere in the relationship department.

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Your guy may enjoy a free night every now and then, but if it happens too much he's going to feel neglected. If you're in a relationship you have to make an effort to devote some time and energy to your man. If you find you'd rather spend all your time with your buddies, he may not be the man for you.

You touch base once a week

A strong friendship doesn't need constant contact or reassurance. We all have busy lives, and it can be hard to fit your friends in sometimes. If you only chat with your girlfriends once a week, your beau should consider himself lucky. You obviously have a life outside of your friends, but you keep in contact enough to make sure they stay in the loop. You probably have your priorities in order and you make an effort to ensure the people you care about know you love them.

When you have a man in your life, you're the type of woman that puts him front and center. Lucky for your friends, you also know better than to ever leave your ladies behind.

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You have a standing girls' night

Girls' nights are great for your girlfriends, but they're also great for your relationship. Getting together with your ladies once a month is just enough to touch base, laugh, de-stress and unwind. You'll come home feeling lighter, happier and more content than you were when you went out, which is a great thing for you and your man.

Having a standing date night with the girls gives you something to look forward to, and it helps him plan a night out with his buddies without worrying about disturbing your plans. Spending a little time away from each other and in your world will do you both a ton of good.

You have toxic friends

Some people only use friends to feel better about themselves. These "friends" don't miss an opportunity to knock you down and make you aware of your short-comings. These friends aren't really friends at all, so get them out of your life as soon as you can.

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They'll drag you down and zero out your confidence, causing you to settle for far less than you deserve.

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Comments on "What your relationship with your friends says about you"

Shelley July 08, 2012 | 6:05 PM

I agree with Emma - balance is what's important. You need friends in your life; and they need you. You also need your man. I try and plan a date night with my guy atleast once a week, and same goes for my friends. Once a month is good once you have kids!

Emma May 25, 2012 | 2:52 PM

I think the idea of checking in once a week is appropriate, especially if you are in a relationship. You need to make sure your friends know they are a priority to you! But also, so is your man. If you start to choose your friends more over him, he won't appreciate that either. Finding the balance is very important.

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