Family Ties

You can't choose the family you're born with. What does your relationship with yours say about you?

adult child with parents

Close families

Are you from a close-knit family? Consider yourself lucky, and so should any anyone you date. Ladies who are close with their families tend to have a good grasp on what's important in life. They also look for relationships with meaning and long-term possibilities.

If you have a good relationship with your family, you're more likely to have self-confidence and be happy, both factors that reflect well on other relationships.

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How dependent are you on your parents? It's likely that the amount of independence you exercise from your parents will translate into your relationships. Do your parents still pay your way? You're probably looking for a man who can do the same. Do they make your major decisions? You may be looking for a man who can take the lead in the same way.

In the same manner, if you're completely independent from your family and go out of your way to avoid asking for help, you'll probably seek the same independence in a relationship.

Only child

Are you an only child? Did your parents' lives revolve completely around you while you were growing up? If so, you may be looking for a relationship where you can be the shining star, as well. Those looking to woo you should do everything they can to make you feel important. You likely don't tolerate being ignored, and may see it as reason enough to walk.

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Oldest sibling

Oldest siblings are raised to take the lead, and this usually doesn't stop when they leave the nest. If you're an only child, you're probably used to being group leaders and event planners at work, and night out organizers with your friends. You're probably looking for a relationship where you can call the shots in the same way.

Oldest siblings may also be hard to please. If you are an oldest sibling, you probably got first dibs more often than not, and didn't have to deal with hand-me-downs unless you had an older cousin close by.

Youngest sibling

The youngest siblings are the babies of the family. They are looked out for from the moment they're born, rarely have to do things they don't want to and tend to get their way. For these reasons, they can sometimes be hard to deal with.

On the other hand, younger children may be a little easier to impress. By the time they came along, the family and the home was already established, so they had to fit into it, not vice versa. Younger children often have to deal with second-hand (or third-hand or fourth-hand!) clothes and toys, so they aren't usually as picky.

Tight with dad

Look out, guys! If a lady is super tight with her dad, she may be a little more picky when it comes to choosing the guy in her life. She's not going to bring anyone home whom he won't like, and may not continue with someone he doesn't approve of. She may even be searching for someone who reminds her of her father, even though she probably doesn't know it.

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Comments on "What your relationship with your family says about you"

Leslie October 02, 2012 | 7:31 PM

This is totally true and it's interesting how depending on if you're the oldest, middle, or youngest what types of relationships you're in and who you choose to be with. Thanks for sharing!

Hannah September 20, 2012 | 1:53 PM

I'm very close to my family and my husband loves that. He isn't that close to his and they're all about the drama, so he loves that my family is close by and drama free! He always suggests we go over there for dinner. It's cute, I think he likes them more than I do! Haha jk :)

Katie September 20, 2012 | 1:51 PM

Hahaha my husband and I are BOTH oldest children, so we both have the tendency to want to "take the lead." I have to remind myself constantly that he's the leader, not me. He values and respects my opinion, but ultimately in our family he's the one with the final say.

Bryn May 11, 2012 | 11:11 AM

I think it is also interesting that they didn't include the role of the middle child. I am the middle child in my family so I was definitely curious. As my family has changed over the last couple of years, I am not as close to them as I used to be, and I used to be a big daddy's girl, but not any longer! So I don't feel like I relate here at all.

Stephanie Gasso February 09, 2012 | 9:20 AM

What if your the middle child? What are the expectations of a middle child? And, do middle children really suffer with middle child syndrome?

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