Is He The
Marrying Kind?

So you’ve been dating this guy for a while, and despite your every effort to the contrary, your mind has wandered to images of what your future children will look like and what kind of home you’ll have together. But each birthday, Christmas and Valentine’s Day rolls around without so much as a hint of a ring. Is he just waiting for exactly the right moment, or is he just not the marrying kind? Here are a few undeniable signs that your guy may never want to marry.

Man texting while on a date

He comes right out and says so

If he says he never wants to get married, he probably means it. But time and again, women get involved with men who develop a rash at the mention of marriage. Look at George Clooney. He makes no apologies about not wanting to be married. One beautiful woman after another parades through his life, probably thinking she'll be taking up residency in George's Italian villa as Mrs. Clooney. But George isn't sharing his Italian villa, or anything else a divorce attorney might fight for later. We could all speculate about George ending up old and alone with one of his domesticated pigs, and that it might serve him right, but the fact remains: He has declared himself a lifetime bachelor, and he hasn't budged on that.

He's all about the bromance

Guys want to play beer-pong, go bowling and sit around a TV yelling at athletes, coaches and refs who can't hear them, in addition to a whole host of other activities that confuse women. And they want to do it together. (If you want to be in a relationship for more than three minutes, you better accept and embrace this reality.) The desire to hang with the boys is normal for most men. However, that is ALL some men want to do. (You can spot these guys in a bar. They usually wear shirts three sizes too small for them, use the word "dude" a little too often and probably have an arm-band tattoo of some sort.) If you are constantly being pushed aside for "Boy's Night Out," or if his posse is present every time you are together, then he may have a Peter Pan complex. This means he lacks the maturity to step away from the video games long enough to spend time with his significant other. This type of guy is pretty self-indulgent, so not only are you probably not headed to the altar, you should accept that on his list of top 10 priorities, you probably come in somewhere around 37. Save yourself a lot of grief and move on from this oaf as soon as possible.

He's a work-a-holic or hobby-a-holic

For some reason, certain men place work and/or hobbies above mates. These men are called jerks. Okay, that's a bit harsh. Life does, however, sometimes pass these guys by. One morning they wake up shocked to realize their hair is gone, the kids they never had don't call or write and their evenings are spent curled up with a mangy cat watching Murder She Wrote re-runs. You can fritter your life away hoping this guy will get his priorities straight, or you can realize early on that you're never going to be on a tropical honeymoon with this guy.

He's been married before

How much fun is it to be left holding the bag for the she-devil who came before you? She worked your guy like a cheap blender in an old folks' home and now you've got to make up for it! This can be exhausting. If you're a rabid rescuer, you'll work yourself silly trying to make up for someone else's mistakes. Don't be shocked if Mr.-Kicked-in-the-Chops is in no real hurry to get remarried, no matter how awesome you treat him.

His parents are divorced

Since about 75 percent of men come from broken homes, this can be an alarming suggestion, but don't panic just yet. Some guys' intelligence surpasses that of their parents at a very young age and he may be determined to have a more successful marriage than his parents. Others, however, will be scarred for life. They may be thinking, "Wow, as much fun as my childhood was, I'm not in a big hurry to live that out again!" Here's how you can tell the difference. If he bolts as if he's about to be trapped in a house fire when you bring it up, he's not ready to marry. If he can talk about it without stuttering or staring off into space, you might have half a chance of being called "wife" someday.

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Comments on "5 Signs he's not the marrying kind"

CJ January 19, 2014 | 6:31 PM

This article is misleading. George Clooney was married once so he's not a lifetime bachelor. He's not single; he's divorced.

Natasha May 08, 2013 | 12:21 PM

Well my bf of 7yrs is a workaholic and neglects me and the kids and in the beginning of our relationship he always mentioned marriage , and now after all the yrs and two kids , it seems we come second in hes life , he doesnt help around the hse or gets involve in any activities , hes main aim is hes job and says its for our future , im with him and yet feel alone and doesnt seem marriage is on the cards for us either

Erika April 04, 2013 | 5:52 PM

I should of read this 6 yrs ago! My soon to be exhusband falls under "workaholic" and "bromance". Im never getting married again!

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Mark December 15, 2012 | 6:36 AM

To be honest I found this article a little insulting. It's like its saying every man who chooses to remain single is somehow a bad person or "does not have his priorities right". Who says? Some men just don't want to get married and its their choice. Why do you need to fantasize about them dying old and alone and regret not marrying you? What makes you think that's going to happen since not being married does not equate to being single. What makes you think even if it does happen he's going to be sadder than the man caught in a love less marriage his whole life?

Jason October 23, 2012 | 8:08 PM

A lot of men are not getting married anymore because its a double standards against them. the divorce rate is 50%, 75% in Canada are initiated by women. The wife takes half his assets, his kids, gets child support, and requires alimony for life. u really think men are willing to get married anymore... Its no surprised what feminism has done, its a blackish against women, because unlike guys we don't care about being single. We understand that most women only think about the money, so we don't mind just dating u and never to tie that knot. Western women have done this to yourself, by making this nation divorce frenzy and money greedy.

Tiffany October 02, 2012 | 7:21 PM

I don't necessarily think that if he's a work a holic that he's not the marrying kind. A lot of men work very hard but are great catches. As long as he's able to balance both work and family then I don't see a problem with that.

Lauren September 20, 2012 | 10:47 AM

In response to the question, my current husband never thought he would get married and sure enough we are now married. So, I guess he never said flat out he didn't want to be married, he just never saw himself as married. Guess I was the right girl for him!

Dila August 02, 2012 | 10:58 AM

I mean fi he loves you then you definitely have a high chance possibility that he will marry you if you both been in a relationship for so long.

Tina July 08, 2012 | 5:58 PM

I completely agree with Emma. If a guy is married, don't get involved. Who wants to be the "other woman?" Plus, there's a VERY good chance he's never going to leave his wife for you, and if he DOES, well, he'll probably leave you for someone else. Stay away from married men. Or men who say they never want to get married.

Andrea May 31, 2012 | 12:37 PM

Yep. Soon-to-be ex-hubby fits nicely in the second category. He absolutely detests the word 'bromance', too, which makes it funnier! hahahaha

Emma May 02, 2012 | 11:21 AM

Wouldn't the correct thing be not getting involved in the first place with someone who tells you he is married? That is so disrespectful to another woman, whatever his reasons for straying are. Guys make it very clear whether or not marriage is a life goal for them. We women think we can be the one that changes their mind, but it more than likely won't happen.

Sharon January 15, 2012 | 9:21 AM

First of all I met or should I say remet this man and found out that we grew up together, went to the same high school, same college prep program and shared many close personal friends. Though he and I never were very close as friends we knew many of the same friends. After meeting what I perceived as a set up by a woman at the bank who apparently did not like my style we entered a pseudo relationship that has lasted so far for a few months. He says he is married and thats ok because we will never be intimate rather he knows it or not. I have told him I do not want her problems(meaning him and his wifes reason he is out seeking someone else}. That being said thanks for the clarity of my mind for doing the correct thing!!!!!

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