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What to say when: He has a girlfriend

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How to handle an attached dude

If you are on a mission to bag a particular guy, there could be some serious ramifications if he's already got a girlfriend. Sure, even a happily-attached dude will flirt like he's single so he can feel like he's still "got it." That doesn't mean he actually wants to ditch his lady for a new relationship. Find out what to do when you discover his other half.

How to handle an attached dude

what to say when he has a girlfriend

If that guy you always flirt with in your favorite coffee shop or bar happens to mention that he has a girlfriend, play it cool. Simply smile and say "lucky girl" or "my loss." That's it. Enough said. If you think there's potential to become his next girlfriend, then make sure you fill the friend spot while he remains with his current one. Keep talking, flirting and asking questions about him to hint that you're interested. You can even ask a couple questions about her, but keep them general so you don't cross the line.

what to do when he has a girlfriend

Let him make the first move to explain the situation, then dial back the come-hither looks. Don't tempt him into dumping her or being unfaithful. Respecting the fact that he has a girlfriend will in turn make him respect you. That way, if they break up… he just might come knocking on your door.

what to avoid when he has a girlfriend

Uh… his girlfriend. Just kidding! Seriously, you should avoid putting yourself in a position where you might be blamed for their break up. He'll only end up feeling resentful, even if he secretly liked you. Wait it out -- or move on -- until he actually breaks up with the girl on his own. Then make your move.

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