How to play hard to get

It's Really Not That Hard

Although we would never openly admit it, it’s the ones who we can’t have that we often find the most attractive. We CAN have you, of course, but seriously – don’t let us know that. Here are our top tips for winning us over by playing hard to get.

Woman playing hard to get

1Flirt, but not too much

Keep guys on their toes -- are you interested or not? Maybe just a little bit? Maybe it's the beer goggles? Men like the attention, but you don't need to go overboard.

2Be cryptic, but cute

Sending a "What's up?" text doesn't usually mean "Booty call now!" but it will get your guy's attention. Just don't text us "R u there?" like, two seconds after asking what's up -- that's not playing hard to get, it's called nagging. However, if the next text is something mysterious, like "Cause I may be wondering," guys may take the bait.

3Play his game

Making him wonder, "Will she or won't she?" keeps men guessing. From turning the tables on guys with cheesy pickup lines or saying you might give us your number after we buy you a drink can make men up for the chase.

And if these don't work, act interested. That may contradict the whole playing hard to get thing, but honestly? Men don't pick up signals well. Women have a series of subtle hints and suggestions they think scream "I'm interested!" but often, men don't have a clue. Smile, wink, do that sexy crossed-leg thing and then maybe your guy will get it. Chances are -- if you think you're being over the top, you're probably doing things just right.

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Comments on "How to play hard to get"

Kendra March 08, 2013 | 4:58 PM

Great tips!! I totally agree with these. I'm pretty good at playing hard to get, and I like to say it's how I landed my fiance :)

tanya January 27, 2013 | 7:30 PM

My goodness i needed this advice. Me and this guy are super into eachother...but taking it slow so are "just friends". Althouh we cuddle and kiss and it keeps me wanting more....its hard to go on thenext days playing hard to get when i just want his love every waking minute lol.

Katie November 24, 2012 | 10:49 AM

I like the tip about flirting, but not too much. You want to be subtle yet still let them know you're interested.

Tina July 02, 2012 | 3:59 PM

As much as I hate playing games, I think it is important to play a little hard to get when first starting out. If you seem too available and needy, a guy's going to be turned off. Once you've gone on a few dates and you both know you like eachother, then it's fine to act like yourself and quit the games.

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