When you call is almost as important as what you say when you do. Don't even think of calling him at work, when he's getting ready for work or just getting home; he'll be rushed in the morning and needs time to unwind when he gets home. Call right after dinner, when his long day is over and he's more relaxed. If he's missing you at all, this is probably the time -- so he'll be more susceptible to lonely feelings and more receptive to your call.
Hopefully, you haven't been phoning, texting, writing or emailing, driving by his home, or conveniently showing up at places where you know he'll be. If you've kept your distance since the breakup, good job; keep your cool on this first call, too.
Don't ever phone before you know what you're going to say. If you plan to talk about the breakup or try to get him back, rethink. This is not the time to discuss who each of you is currently dating or to mention a possible reconnection. Stay away from heavy emotional topics. When you do make the call, speak to him with the same confidence you had when the two of you were together. Concentrate on staying calm.
The most important rule for this call is to keep it short. You've made the connection, but you need to get off the phone after a few minutes. Let him do most of the talking. To end the call, tell him you have to go. You might say that you're running out the door in a few minutes and need to get moving -- no further details. Keeping this conversation short could leave him wanting more.
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