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Top 5 relationship myths - debunked

Jessica Padykula is a freelance writer and editor in Toronto, Canada covering a wide range of  topics for several online lifestyle publications. She is a regular contributor for SheKnows, covering travel, style, relationships, health and...

Separating fact from fiction

Everyone has their ideas about what a relationship is supposed to be and about what goes on in other relationships. So, we decided to take a closer look at some of the most common relationship myths and do our best to separate fact from fiction when it comes to love.

Everyone else is having better sex

If you're currently dealing with some bedroom boredom or feel like you're in a bit of a rut where sex is concerned, you probably feel like you're the only one – and that all the other couples out there are having much better (and more frequent) sex than you and your guy. While everyone else's sex life is different, assuming yours is somehow lesser than that of every other couple out there is just silly. Maybe the neighbors down the street are having hotter sex than you and your man – maybe they're not. The idea that every other couple out there has a far-superior sex life is a myth and something that will just drive you crazy if you buy into it.

The kids always come first

While your offspring take priority over things like staying out all night or sneaking away to Vegas for the weekend on a whim, it's a myth that your entire life needs to revolve around the kids. Doing things as a family is important and being there for your children is a must, but that doesn't mean you have to forget that you and your husband are also a couple. You owe it to yourselves to build in alone time, schedule date nights and otherwise treat each other like human beings, not just chauffeurs, diaper changers, cooks and maids.

You can't find anyone else attractive

One of the biggest myths about being in a relationship states that once you find love, you must never find anyone else attractive or god forbid, do a little harmless flirting. Love doesn't render you blind to other people with nice eyes or great abs – you just aren't allowed to act on it. By all means appreciate any eye candy that comes into view and do not feel bad about it. You might love your man and think he's one of the hottest guys you've met, but that doesn't mean you can't look twice at that guy in the gym with the reality defying body.

We time beats me time

Once you're married or in a long-term committed relationship, it can be easy to forget that you're not just one half of a couple, you're also an individual. A common myth is that many people feel like their needs as an individual should always take a back seat to the needs of the couple. While you want to ensure your relationship stays on track by doing what's best for both of you, buying into the idea that what you want no longer matters will only frustrate you. If you want to do something your partner doesn't, go for it. As long as you're not hurting anyone, you should be able to do the things that make you happy.

This is as good as it gets

Not all relationships end up working out, but there's always room for improvement – contrary to another popular relationship myth – that what you currently have is as good as it gets. Before you assume you're at the peak of relationship satisfaction, make an effort to improve things and see what happens. It's easy to assume nothing will ever change if you don't make any moves to change it. Maybe things aren't going to get better, but it's a myth to think that your relationship has no hope of moving forward.

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