Why It's Over

Relationships end all the time for a variety of reasons. It's not enjoyable, but it is a part of life, so we thought we'd look a little closer at some of the main reasons why couples call it quits. What we've come up with are five factors that seem to be responsible for the demise of most relationships.

Couple in conflict breaking up

1Incompatibility

Some couples, no matter how hard they try to get on the same page, just aren't compatible. Things usually start off OK because their differing opinions about everything make things interesting and actually create a lot of passion. But eventually, once they want to settle down and start making some real life, adult decisions, their opposite points of view start to cause conflict. Opposites attract to a certain extent, but when it comes to creating a life together, raising children and staying connected, incompatibility can cause more frustration than it's worth and will often be the main factor driving a couple apart.

2Cheating

There really isn't too much to say about this one. Some couples make it through a case of infidelity – while others simply can't. Cheating is often a deal breaker for many people since making a commitment means staying faithful, and if your partner can't do that, how can you trust them? The other issue is that cheating often happens when there's something already going wrong within the relationship, so by the time one person finds their way into someone else's bed, the relationship may already have been on a downhill trajectory.

3Growing apart

The bond that keeps every relationship going and moving in the right direction (forward) can end up frayed and tattered as time passes. What began as a strong connection that drew the two of you together doesn't always hold up under pressure. What felt like the ultimate connection between two people at the beginning can end up completely changing. When this happens, you're left staring at someone you've known and loved but who now feels like a stranger. There aren't many couples who can survive growing apart, and usually it just means the relationship has run its course and it's time to move on.

4Faded chemistry

It can be frighteningly easy to mistake lust for love. You want to be with someone (and in their bed) 24/7 so it must be love, right? Not so fast. Many relationships end simply because the initial chemistry wears off and there was no substance backing up the sex, so when one (or both) of you are bored with the physical aspect of what you had, there's nothing else keeping you connected.

5Different paths

This is probably the most frustrating cause of breaking up because even though you might want different things in life, that doesn't mean you don't still love each other. If you want kids but your guy doesn't or he wants to settle down in the suburbs and you want to travel the world – these are tough situations to deal with and when a compromise can't be reached, there's often no other choice but to part ways despite any lingering feelings you might have for each other.

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Comments on "Top 5 reasons relationships end"

Theresa September 19, 2012 | 11:46 AM

Incompatibility is a big one, but I believe that can be worked on. Now, if you are incompatible on HUGE issues, you really shouldn't have gotten so serious with that person. I would advice to seek counseling before quitting if the issue really is just incompatibility.

Hannah September 19, 2012 | 11:45 AM

I'm definitely terrified of growing apart from my spouse. I know we would never cheat, but growing apart seems so easy in our busy lives. He comes home from work and we're both exhausted or I go grab dinner with a girlfriend. I'm just scared that slowly overtime we will simply be "room mates."

Gigi September 09, 2012 | 2:19 AM

I was in a long distance relationship and we live only 4hrs away. At one point we were seeing eachother everyday since we went to college together, then when he graduated one year before me we saw eathother often, then when I graduated a year after we were seeing eathother occasionally...it had been only 1 month of not seeing eachother when he broke up with me couple weeks ago. We started off as friends for a year before being in a relationship. He claimed its the distance and we are not able to see eachother espeacially since we both started working a lot. He said he wants to be with me, but it doesnt even seem like we are in a relationship by not seeing eachother, so he wants to go back to being friends but with benefits and would still want me to go visit him and be able to see eachother. Now I know at the end of the day he is a guy and has needs, and long distance relationships are tough,and maybe he just got comfortable and use to seeing me all the time, but Im starting to think there's more to it than just the distance,...what do you think? I'm confused :-/

Cynthia June 12, 2012 | 11:47 AM

These are all very true and helpful. It also goes to show that if you are in a relationship and fight over little things, that it really is no reason to break up. If you stop communicating and growing apart from your loved one, that's a more serious issue than bickering over the small stuff - atleast you're talking!!

Emma May 11, 2012 | 2:55 PM

I think the idea that faded chemistry is a leading cause to ending a relationship shows that it is important to build a relationship before you jump into bed. Sure, it is fun! But it is hard to build a relationship just on the physical. Try waiting if you are really interested in the long term.

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