If you really want to de-clutter your relationship you're going to have air what's bothering you. Think of all the lingering resentments and issues you hang onto but don't talk about as trinkets taking up space on your shelf and weighing it down with their uselessness. Whatever you hate – the erratic way he drives, the fact he can't seem to ever get everything on the shopping list – but say nothing about is actually cluttering up your relationship and now is the time to discuss it. And fair is fair. If you let him in on some of the things he does that drive you nuts, he's allowed to do the same. But keep it civil – this isn't a time to fight. This is about discussing anything that's holding either of you back and clearing the air so your love is lighter and stronger.
You wouldn't keep a broken clock lying around or hold onto a radio that doesn't play music and the same principle applies to your relationship. If you lose your mind every Monday night because you're responsible for making dinner and picking up the kids from soccer and cleaning up – that's a scenario that isn't working, so this is your opportunity to rid your relationship of anything that doesn't feel right and replace it with things that do. Maybe Monday night becomes pizza night or you husband skips his after-work beer to come home and start dinner. Either way, if either of you are having a tough time with something – don't suffer, make improvements.
If you always fight about who's turn it is to take out the trash or the fact he spends too much time watching sports or that you invite your mother over too much for his taste – it's time bust out of your argument rut. Find ways to get around the weekly fights. Tell him he can go out the next time your mom comes over for Sunday tea, create a trash schedule so it's always equal, and implement a rule that says he can watch as much sports as he wants as long as he does a chore first. Either way, find ways to actually deal with what you argue about on a consistent basis so you don't have to think about it anymore.
Once you've cleaned out your figurative space it's time to de-clutter your actual space. Living with someone means collecting twice the junk you don't need, triple or quadruple that if you have kids so taking stock of your space and donating anything you don't use or need is a great way to feel better about your home and your relationship. Clutter causes stress so it makes sense that minimizing the crap will make you feel better. Hold a yard sale, give things to charity, and find better ways to get organized – anything that will help clear the air and all the rooms.
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