5 Rules for aspiring sugar babies

Aug 16, 2011 10:10 AM by Jamie Beckman

Posted in Love & Sex

Top Tips For Wannabe Babies

What's expected of a sugar baby in a quid pro quo relationship with an older, generous man? Brandon Wade, founder and CEO of SeekingArrangement.com, gave us his top five rules for aspiring sugar babies looking to make the most of a sugar baby/sugar daddy setup.

Brandon Wade's sugar baby/sugar daddy hookup website, SeekingArrangement.com, has garnered a lot of attention recently — much of it negative. Talking heads from Star Jones to college professors have suggested that the site facilitates prostitution. (Legally, it does not.) Others say the site merely gives a name and face to what's already been happening for decades.

So what should an aspiring sugar baby expect? We asked Wade for some tips for women thinking about dipping their toes into the sugar lifestyle. He outlined five rules that he thinks all sugar babies should follow:

BRANDON WADE'S TOP FIVE RULES FOR SUGAR BABIES

"Don't Forget How Hot and How Fun You Are!"

Wade says: "Being a sugar baby is an opportunity to be a different kind of 'you.' Before starting your sugar journey, it's wise to get to know your sugar-self. While this might sound a little vague, it's actually quite simple. As a sugar baby, you are undoubtedly hot, unquestionably fun and endlessly intriguing. In your everyday life, you might not think of yourself to be such a jewel while you're doing dishes that your roommates left for you, but as a sugar baby, every imperfection is part of your perfection, and if you can't convince yourself of that, you'll definitely need to learn how to in order to have a successful sugar life. And of course, always think of ways to add value to the lives of those around you, especially your sugar daddy's."

"Don't Skip a Beat When You're Given a Treat"

Wade says: "As a sugar baby, you're the beneficiary in financially compensated relationships with men who, by virtue of their being sugar daddies, should have no problem whatsoever with providing the benefits you seek. You may have been brought up to resist being spoiled or pampered and taught that the only time you can be given a gift is when you've worked for it. You might find that when presented with a very expensive gift or a large sum of money, you feel anxious and even guilty about accepting it. However, as a sugar baby, you must realize that part of your 'role' in an arrangement is to graciously accept the benefits from your sugar daddy. A sugar daddy wouldn't be one if he couldn't handle the idea of having a gorgeous, younger companion as his arm candy and special someone. In the same sense, a sugar baby wouldn't be a sugar baby if she's not comfortable with being given the finer things in life without having to work her butt off for it."

"Keep Your Emotions (and Expectations) in Sugar-Check"

Wade says: "Don't forget that as a sugar baby, part of what you offer is a drama-free, simple and fun experience whenever you are with your sugar daddy. One of the main reasons sugar daddies seek sugar babies is to find someone to help them take the stress away. Keep your emotional expectations in check. Don't slip into being emotionally dependent on your sugar daddy who isn't ready for a long-term commitment. Of course, this isn't always easy, especially if your sugar daddy slips up and drops the 'L' (love) bomb on you after a night of one too many drinks or if he's just too irresistibly good in bed."

"Be Brutally Honest"

Wade says: "The best sugar daddy and sugar baby relationships form out of brutal honesty. Honesty allows both people to know exactly what they are getting into, what to expect from the other person and what may be expected of them. There shouldn't be any beating around the bush here. So as you are filling out your online profile, be sure to write about all your positive qualities as well as your negative ones. If you snore at night or if you are addicted to shopping, say so. While they may not all be positive qualities, there will always be someone out there who will accept you for who you are."

"Always Be On Your Guard"

Wade says: "The real world can be a scary place, so while you are searching for a sugar daddy, always remember there are bad apples among the good. When using an online sugar dating website, such as SeekingArrangement.com or any other public forum, remember to be careful and to verify all potential sugar daddies you may or may not meet. On SeekingArrangement.com, some members have been verified and certified, but for those who aren't certified, the responsibilities fall on the sugar baby to check and double check that a potential sugar daddy is telling the truth. "

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Comments on "5 Rules for aspiring sugar babies"

I am a mature woman, 42, just starting in this for extra spending money. Time will tell. Haven't met anyone yet in person....will be interesting to see how many men are serious about setting up a mutual arrangement. I know I cannot do it unless I am attracted to the man. I'll only take cash or a deposit into my paypal account. If he wants to give me gifts, too, that's fine. But I'm a cash baby. I'll only discuss an arrangement in person. And I will never ever sleep with him on first date....probably not 2nd date either. Get his full name on the first meet...make him show you a credit card.

I honestly feel all sugar baby's should gather together n speak like this more often

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I just stepped into the ring as a sugar baby because I am not working and I don't want to work right now. At 42, getting laid off, in school and being independent, this is hard. I have always joked around about having someone pay my bills and spoil me and when asked what my expectations are, I choked. Guilt kicked in. Oh my, I'm such a wous. He is younger than I am and just wants to support my financial needs and he is handsome! Some of the answers on this page have really helped me. Thanks. Be careful what you ask for......you may actually get it.

I just joined the site and I am a new sugar baby in her 40s. Yes you can be older and still have the role. It's more selective of course however you should expect a lot more intelligent conversations with your SD because they will expect it of you. I have done lots of research before getting started and it works if you are the type of person that can compartmentalize your emotions. I look at it as a mutually supportive relationship. You provide physical and emotional support (stress free) and they provide financial support. Safety first and remember they are rewarding you for your time and support and you are worth it!

Better to be appreciated by the old guy than a fool to the young. Is there. A demand for the more seasoned mature sugar babies?

What revolting, demeaning nonsense. How about taking the dollar signs out of your eyes and focusing a little more on your self-respect. What happens when you start to age and these same old men are only interested in girls your daughter's age?

once I turn 18 I really want to become a sugar baby. I think I would be really good at it and I fancy the idea of having an older guy around. I know some people look at it as prostitution but I think it's great

This is something im really thinking about i get told im very pretty and alot of fun but i am alittle over weight but i have alot of talent.This is the first time i speak of this but man it dont sound to bad

Do any of y'all cry when you watch Pretty Woman >.< I do

I'm a sugar baby, a single mom, an idependent woman, my SD is great , loving wonderful , successful, a great lover .... can you tell i fell in love ? it's terrible , he's married ? so i have flings to compensate, its christmas time, he's in costa rica with the wife and kids, i have to go visit my broka ass bby ddy in his moms trailer in tim-buck-two.... might i add i got knocked up when he and i started our "thing" and he stayed the whole time , money , emotions,no while i was prego but im sure he wont leave his wife . he's never spoken about her EVER .... idk but i miss him, but i'm thinking about stacking my money up , going to the club maybe... idk i left there to be a sb lol ?????

do you have to have with these men? because why is it called sugar baby if its prostitution?

Being a sugar baby isn't all as glamorous as it seems. Unless you got really lucky, and stumbled upon a sugar daddy that is cute/sweet/charming/young, 98% of the time the men are old/sagging/ugly/smelly/rude. Of my experience of being a sugar baby, I've hated it. The only reason I do so is because the pay is excellent - but honestly, I consider it hard work and self-degrating. My sugar daddy is ugly. He is immature and selfish, and overweight too. But for every night we spend together (apprx. 2 hours) I receive about $500. We "hang out" about once a week...........so $500 a week?? I couldn't even get that waitressing at a busy sports bar every night for two weeks. I'm a college student too - so I'm saving about 20 hours a week of hard work and delivering drinks to annoying customers who may or may not tip me - to make more money in just one hour's worth of time. However, the trade offs are this: self-disgust, taking hot showers after each encounter, risking pregnancy, and frankly, losing interest in . The thought of , even with someone my OWN age, has gone been dragged through the dirt. Any type of , I dislike. But college has made me poor, and my apartment building was the only one available, which has also taken a beating on my budget. Being a sugar baby sucks - but it puts bread on the table.

When is it appropriate to discuss the arrangement? Is it better done in person or over email?

Im a virgin too...tempting but I will get a job instead

I'm 18 and a virgin. The college I'm going to is NOT cheap so I'm thinking of doing this, but do I have to sleep with these guys?

I just made my profile on that website 3 days ago and I've gotten SO many emails! The compliments really boost my self confidence and I've started talking to a couple really cool guys that live nearby! It's all a ton of fun!

I have decided to try the SD/SB relationship and, to be perfectly honest, I'm not extremely sure how to go about it. I've done escort work before but very little. Is there a place I can go to talk to someone about my questions and get advice from someone seasoned in the lifestyle?

If you depend on sugar daddies (SDs)for most of your income, remember to diversify. 5 SDs should be enough for a steady income stream, assuming an average of 2 months per SD and 3 weeks replacement time. Also check out other venues where you can trade your favors for short term anonymous encounters. Like in every other profession: planning, marketing and good control of the cash flow are important to ensure steady and growing business. It takes years to differentiate between flakes and the real ones. If you're a student - don't even think of doing this unless you've spent at least 6 months picking up johns in a more conventional way. You're likely to get burned real bad if you go into this game with no experience. Best of luck to us all!