Catch A Cheater

He's staying out late. You don't seem as close. Something doesn't feel right. He's acting differently. But do these things mean he's cheating? As an author and infidelity expert who has given relationship advice to thousands of women for the past decade, I've put together the top 11 ways to catch a cheater so you can find out whether your guy is cheating or not. A woman's gut instinct is rarely wrong, so listen to yours, put on your detective hat and get to work.

Stephany Alexander, catching cheaters with her Cheat Sheet

1Pay attention to where he is when he isn't with you

Is he spending time with or talking a lot about someone of the opposite sex? Is he hanging out with someone he claims is just a friend instead of you? Sometimes both people involved in an affair cover for each other so be aware of that.

2Watch his cell phone behavior

Does he always turn off his cell phone when he's with you because he doesn't want any incoming calls from his "other" woman? Do your calls go through to his voice mail a little too often? He may have his cell phone turned off because he is with his affair. If you have access to his cell phone, check it for repetitive unknown numbers and suspicious text messages. If you have access to his mobile phone bill, note repeated calls or calls of long duration and the times. Press the re-dial on his phone or *69. This is an effective way to find out who he has been calling.

3Monitor his time spent on the computer

Does he have multiple email accounts or a free email account you don't know about? If you suspect your partner is involved in an affair, you can install a keystroke logger which logs every keyboard stroke. It's not illegal to install a logger onto your own computer which the two of you may share, but make sure you check your local laws before installing it on someone else's computer. Take note of late night computer usage, especially in chat rooms. Check his internet web browser history (cache) for unusual websites he may be surfing such as dating sites.

4Check his spending habits

If you have access to his bank or credit card statements, check them for unusual transactions. Pay attention to any strange ATM withdrawals or unexplained travel and business expenses. If your guy is often broke, he could be spending money on his affair.

5Monitor your partner's driving habits

Watch for an increase in gas receipts and monitor the car's odometer to see if there are extra, unexplained miles on the car. If your mate claims to be working late, check paycheck stubs to verify the overtime. Place a GPS tracking device in the car. They are usually no larger than a pack of gum and will track anywhere his automobile goes. Make sure you research any legal ramifications before you decide to do this.


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Comments on "Is your guy cheating? 11 Ways to tell"

marettuccia November 20, 2011 | 9:32 AM

very class advice! he won't certainly take you for a psycho in any case!

James September 30, 2011 | 11:53 AM

Rona & Kay: This can/does go both ways; not just with men. I was blind to and even in denial about my ex however, after closely observing (not watching) her behavior and emotional changes; my instincts confirmed what I already knew as fact. The only tip I followed with my ex was # 10 because the dynamics seem to fit the other 10 tips yet once I got the truth (not from her kids, cousins, friend girls etc. etc.); but, from using tip # 10 then, I just packed my grip and left all the furniture, food, etc. etc. in the apartment and just left. After close to 2 years later, she spotted me crossing the street 1 day and tried every trick in the book to get me back however, once the mental/emotinal connections are faded, then there is no need to hang on anymore: (accept the part I played in the relationship, and move on---not blaming anyone else)....

rona June 29, 2011 | 9:16 AM

I have a BLACK CURSE If i notice my man cheat me I will curse his shrink it to a tiny sprouts and never raise up ever again.

Kay June 20, 2011 | 3:19 PM

Man, I could have used these tips when I stayed blindly with my ex for way too long. All the signs where there but I just didn't want to believe it.

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