5 Phrases He Doesn't Want To Hear

You should never censor yourself in front of a man, but sometimes it's better to let some things go unsaid. Here are five things you should avoid saying to your guy — either to avoid a fight, preserve his ego, or save your own sanity.

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Top 5 phrases that send him to man cave mentality

"I don't care — let's do whatever you want to do."

One thing guys wish that women would do on date night is Just. Freaking. Pick. Something. Don't worry about whether he'll balk when you suggest a new foreign flick or roll his eyes if you say you want Japanese food. You're as much a part of this relationship as he is, and trust us, he'll love that you took the initiative to suggest something fun.

"Bradley Cooper/Jon Hamm/Justin Timberlake is soooooooo hot!"

No one loves man candy like we do, but if you go on and on about what a stud Isaiah Mustafa is, it'll make your guy retreat into his man cocoon. No one — male or female — can compete with an airbrushed, professionally-gym-trained, designer-clad superstar. Admire your favorite actor's man parts in private — and save the verbal praise for your guy when he cleans up nice for dinner.

"Does this make me look fat?"

We all know that no one wins if you ask him this.

"Do you think she's cute?"

Unless he's always able to contort his face into a believable state of revulsion before you get the "t" out in "cute," he won't be able to give you an answer that won't send you into a rage. Listen, there are other hot women in the universe; you can't really expect him to say that Angelina Jolie "isn't his type." Don't force the issue unless he's openly gawking at anything female or flirting with the waitress right in front of you. Then it might be time to reassess why you're in the relationship, not whether you measure up.

"What are you thinking?"

One of our guy friends summed his thoughts on this question nicely: "Trust us: You don't want to know." It's nice to retain some of your relationship's mystery, right? Also: Sometimes a blank stare is just a blank stare. Fill up your own mental canvas with something scintillating — like Patrick Dempsey wearing nothing but a stethoscope and a smile.

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Comments on "Never say this to your guy"

Shelley July 24, 2012 | 9:49 AM

Hahaha I am definitely guilty of the last three! My husband doesn't mind if I ask what he's thinking though - he asks me the same thing and it invokes conversation. "Does this make me look fat?" is just a no no. It's basically a lose lose for your husband, so don't put him in that situation. You KNOW if you look fat in something!

Embarr June 16, 2011 | 10:33 AM

The last one can be applied to what not to say to your gal as well. I have been asked one too many times what I'm thinking. Guys might think that's what we want to hear since apparently it's something we ask them so much. Truth is though, it's usually asked at the worst moment when we're either thinking of something we don't want to share or when our minds are blank.

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