You want a boyfriend NOT a kid in need of a full-time babysitter. If he can't be bothered to change (or wash) the sheets on his bed, stock his fridge with more than beer and condiments or wake up before noon at least a few days a week, you will be repulsed before you know it and unable to get past the state of his disgusting bathroom. No, you don't need to be able to eat off the floor, but if he doesn't respect his space, you're bound to be turned off by the fourth date, if not sooner.
Maybe you don't need a guy who wears Prada or owns more skin care products than you do, but trust us, you will get sick of ripped jeans and hoodies eventually. But lack of wardrobe diversity can just mean clueless where clothes are concerned – in which case you may be able to intervene with some subtle style hints. If he simply doesn't care what he looks like, though, you're in trouble. He doesn't have to be immaculately groomed, coifed and dressed at all times, but if he refuses to put any effort into his appearance, you'll end up getting frustrated fast.
Confidence is sexy; a giant ego that seems to overtake the room is not, and you'll notice it right away. Just try not to roll your eyes when in the presence of some slimy jerk who thinks he's much cooler, smarter and more successful than he really is. Most women can smell these walking egos a mile away, and even if they're nice enough to give Mr. I'm-the-best the benefit of the doubt for one date, that all-about-me attitude gets old fast and is never attractive.
It may seem superficial, but if a guy is a few too many rungs below you on the smart-scale, you won't have much to talk about. Hot or not, the guy you date should be able to hold his own in the conversation department. Sooner or later you'll want to spend time in places other than the bedroom, which means talking – and if he can't keep up (or can't be bothered to read anything more than the latest sports scores) you will get fed up and move on in search of a more intelligent option.
If he's constantly walking around with a chip on his shoulder you're probably not going to keep him around long. Similarly, if he's a jerk to everyone from the barista to the bartender, chances are he has a mean streak that can't (or won't) be tamed. Nice guys may not always finish first when it comes to love, but the mean ones always finish last – or at least they should.