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Find value in a failed relationship

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Learn from lost love

You may have read the title of this post and laughed out loud -- especially if you are dealing with a failed (or failing) relationship. But we’re not kidding: You really can learn a lot from being part of something that didn’t work out, despite your initial skepticism. We’re here to let you in on some of the things a failed relationship can teach you.

Learn from lost love

How to appreciate what works

Life is full of ups and downs. The only reason the ups feel so fabulous is because the downs balance them out. You wouldn't recognize a great feeling if you'd never known a bad one. This same principle applies to relationships: Those that go wrong make finding Mr. Right that much sweeter. The next time you're trying to muddle your way through a love match gone wrong, think about how great you'll feel when you finally find someone with whom you really hit it off.

How to handle the rough patches

The next time you're tempted to see a failed relationship as a black mark on your dating career, think again. Every relationship gives you more experience dealing with the inevitable rough patches that go along with living with someone or being part of a couple. The more situations with which you become familiar, the better equipped you'll be to handle them in future relationships.

Mistakes to avoid moving forward

Though devastating and emotionally draining, your relationship's demise has given you a lot of valuable insight into what to avoid the next time you fall in love. You can break bad habits, solve some communication problems and examine anything else that left your twosome in tatters. The more you're aware of the mistakes that dragged your last relationship down, the less likely you are to repeat them.

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