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How to have a summer fling

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Have a fun, carefree fling

Summer is prime time for a hot fling. Long nights, steamy days and shirtless beach boys make hot weather hookups a tempting option. Before you turn on the charm and start flirting, though, here are a few tips to make the most of your summer fling.

Have a fun, carefree fling


Don't take it too seriously.

The whole purpose of the summer fling is to have fun with no strings attached. If you're not used to that, it may take you some time to adjust to the lack of relationship structure. The only way to avoid frustration and disappointment is to think of the fling as temporary and mostly physical. Sure, it could turn into something more, but the key is to avoid thinking too far ahead; just take it one day at a time.

2Avoid post-summer expectations.

You will stress yourself out and end up feeling discouraged if you start placing post-summer expectations on your hot-weather hookup. As tempting as it may be to start thinking about sleepovers and brunch dates, regard the summer fling as just some part-time fun. If something happens to change how you feel and you're both into getting more serious, that's fine -- but in the meantime, avoid putting pressure on the situation. Just keep it sexy and steamy.

3Enjoy yourself.

The summer fling is about being carefree and not having to think about the regular rules of dating. It's strictly about fun and nothing more, so you don't have to worry about when or if he'll call, what he's doing or where he is. The pressure is off, and the main goal for both of you is to enjoy yourselves, let loose, try something new and maybe even step outside your sexual comfort zone. If you find yourself indulging in some extra-curricular activities with a cute guy from your gym, the lifeguard at the pool or a bartender from the bar you frequent, just focus on the enjoyment and nothing more.

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