Put Your Relationship On Hold

If your relationship feels like it’s going off the rails, you don’t necessarily have to end it. But taking a break can help you reassess how you both feel about each other and how much effort you're willing to make to get through a particularly rough patch. Here are three reasons you might benefit from a relationship break.

Relationship difficulties

Cursive number 1


You have different goals

Even if you both started out with similar goals, it's common for one half of a couple to discover a new path and decide to chart new territory that doesn't mesh with the other person's plans. Maybe you want to take a job overseas while your significant other would rather stay put, or he wants to settle down and buy a place but you're not sure where you want to put down roots (or even if you do). If any of this sounds familiar but you still care for your partner, try taking a break while you each sort out your separate ambitions. If you end up getting back together, it's probably meant to be.

Cursive number 2One of you cheated

Infidelity can be tough to get over; some people never do. If you're stuck between wanting to make it work and being unsure of your ability to forgive and forget, put your relationship on hold while you explore your feelings. Cheating doesn't have to spell the end, but dealing with the aftermath could require some alone time.

Cursive number 3You need to re-evaluate your life

After college, you might have been absolutely sure about your future: become a dental hygienist, get married, buy a house and have kids. But as you got older, your ideas about life shifted. Taking some time apart will help you figure out how to reconcile your new life plans with your current relationship -- or if that's even possible.


After the break

If you decide to get back together:

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When you should take a break from your relationshipHow to reconnect with your partner

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If you decide to stay apart:

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When you should take a break from your relationshipHow to get your stuff back after a breakup

When you should take a break from your relationshipWhat you can learn from a breakup

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Comments on "3 Reasons to take a relationship break"

Shannon July 08, 2012 | 6:24 PM

I don't believe in breaks, either. I also think if you're married you should make sure your goals align. Sacrifices have to be made in a marriage and that's one of them. If you really want a job overseas and your hubby doesn't want to go, you need to have a real conversation and decide what's best for the two of you.

Emma June 20, 2012 | 12:14 PM

These are all valid reasons to take some time apart to re-evaluate your relationship. I personally hate taking breaks and think that you should work things out together, but I know that is not always the case. Sometimes the relationship can get so overwhelming and strained that a break truly is necessary.

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