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Needing couples' therapy doesn’t mean you’ve failed in some way or can’t cope with small arguments without professional intervention. It often just means you’re at an impasse and need some extra guidance to figure out which way to turn. We’ve come up with three signs that you could benefit from couples' therapy.

Couple's therapy

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You don't listen to each other.

If you're not going to listen to one another, nothing will ever get resolved. A marriage counselor or therapist can act like a referee to ensure you each get a turn to explain what's bothering you or why you haven't been wholly satisfied with the relationship lately. Actually allowing each other to speak and listening to what the other person has to say without judgement or immediate anger is a major step in resolving matters of the heart.

2You fight constantly.

Sometimes, we get so caught up in needing to be right that we'll do anything to get heard, including yelling when we should be communicating like adults. If one or both of you can't seem to get a point across without having a full-blown fight, a counselor can help you communicate better -- in a way that benefits, rather than burdens, the relationship.

3You hold onto resentment.

Refusing to forgive your partner for whatever reason just makes things worse in the long run. Counseling can help you see why you're having such a hard time letting go of your anger. Once you understand the reasoning behind your behavior, you will have a much easier time getting your relationship back on track -- minus the resentment.

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Comments on "3 Signs you need couples' therapy"

Erin August 21, 2012 | 9:16 AM

This is very informative and I personally think that every couple can benefit from couples counseling. It's a way to express your feelings in a safe environment where you won't feel attacked. Also, it's just a great way to learn how to communicate better with each other.

mission April 05, 2011 | 10:15 PM

thank you very much for your informative article, all the 3 signs above can be summed by one most destructive element of a relationship: Pride. This is the chief cause of all problems in relationships, and failure to De-role, compromise or simply submit to one another results in the 3 signs manifesting themselves in our relationships. Couples should know that no one is married to their behavior and hence behavior change is possible.

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