Explaining Infidelity

Trying to figure out why guys cheat can feel like banging your head against a brick wall. He’s in a relationship with a woman who treats him well and he seems happy, so why does he pull the ultimate dealbreaker by being unfaithful? Here are a few of the main reasons a guy ends up sleeping with someone else.

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he's depressed & can't deal.

Some guys act out when they're feeling depressed: Some drink, some get reckless and some cheat. Feeling down is no excuse to hop into someone else's bed, but some men don't know how to deal with depression. Rather than talking about it with their loved ones or taking an active role in feeling better, they becomes susceptible to temptation from other women, believing it will make them feel better.

2They actually believe it's OK.

Some guys are able to convince themselves that cheating isn't that bad. The more he tells himself it's OK, the easier it becomes to get into bed with someone who isn't his spouse or significant other. He doesn't feel any guilt anymore -- until he gets caught, of course, which usually changes his feelings on the matter.

3They think they can get away with it.

If a guy thinks there's absolutely no way you'll find out about his infidelity, he's much more likely to cheat. Lucky for you (but not for him), he'll get sloppier with the details as he gets more comfortable. He'll be less likely to delete the illicit texts and emails, and he'll fail to cover his tracks.

4They're bored.

Boredom makes people do things they may not normally do. Most of these boredom-induced activities aren't bad, but sometimes, the itch for something different results in a really bad decision. His boredom could stem from being out of a job, having a job that doesn't challenge him, wanting to travel or being in a personal rut and bored with the direction his life is heading. Whatever the reason, boredom combined with lack of motivation can lead to negative behavior -- in some cases, cheating.

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Comments on "4 Reasons guys cheat"

April February 17, 2014 | 6:31 AM

Barbara, it makes me sick that you say your man and yet he is married to someone else. Do you really think you should be posting a comment on a why men cheat article?

Barbara July 09, 2013 | 3:47 AM

My man is still married & keeps on saying he will end it but has yet to do so. Yeah MEN ARE ALL DOGS.

Curessa June 21, 2013 | 8:31 PM

^like the comments!

chelan pogue June 11, 2013 | 4:08 PM

He doesnt talk to me as much anymore it just stopped one day. Ive been cheated on before and i HATE it.

belle January 03, 2013 | 6:08 PM

I dont believe my partner he changes and gets dressed up just to go to the grocery store we, dont even go out anymore , its like were home together but hes not really here with me hes distracted or isnt affectionate at all!

Lauren August 21, 2012 | 9:15 AM

I agree with Gloria that most men cheat because they don't want to be married anymore or work on the relationship, but getting a divorce is too expensive. I think it's so sad, but unfortunately it's the reality of the world we live in.

tammybart April 09, 2011 | 7:21 PM

Pay it back and get the info. out on cheaters at CHEATERVILLE-COM - posting all the details about how he or she cheated on you is your payback! its a national website so anyone who search's his/her name will get the story as a search result from the web! its also anonymous if you don't want to put your name as the poster or just check out if someone has skeletons in the closet!

Gloria Sanchez April 01, 2011 | 5:49 PM

I think most men cheat because it's to expensive to get a divorce. They no longer love their wife but do not want to pay alimony or loss property. So they stay married and have affairs. Once they have any affair they will never stop. Their dogs!

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