How To Know
There's no single time that's right for everyone. After a period of emotional recuperation, however, it helps to get back on the horse, as the saying goes. Dating is not a romantic fairy tale, but with support and courage, we do it anyway.
Almost everyone -- regardless of sex -- shares your fear no matter how outwardly confident she appears. Dating can seem exhausting, and no one wants to risk being hurt again. Everyone has baggage, emotional scars, kids, mortgages and ex-spouses, and going from the "just do it" stage to "I've just done it" is difficult.
The trick is to consider each date an educational experience. Every wise dater learns not to waste time with obviously poor matches, to consider the date an opportunity to learn something new, and to appreciate the lesson. The dating process also teaches you what kind of person you're after, as opposed to showing you the people you would never consider. With time, you discover more about who you are now and the kind of person who attracts you.
The process for dating after divorce is different for everyone. Start slowly using basic common sense:
Chances are it's been a while since you've part took in the dating world and a divorce can leave you feeling more discouraged and demotivated than ever. Even when you're ready to jump back into it, dating will be exhausting. Don't feel discouraged in the face of a dating disaster or when there's no chemstiry. The goal isn't to meet Mr. Right #2; the goal is to get back out there and learn the do's and don'ts of dating again.