Cutting Ties
& Moving On

Letting go can be hard even when you know a relationship isn’t working. Dragging things out and staying in a situation that no longer works for you, though, is worse. Here are some tips for letting go of something that isn’t working out.

Couple on verge of break up

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Don't fight it.

The worst thing you can do when you know something isn't working is dig in your heels and fight the inevitable. Not only will you be miserable, but it's also unfair to your partner. Instead, embrace your feelings and know that you're doing the right thing.

2Avoid guilt.

Dumping a cheater or a jerk is one thing, but guilt comes easy when you break up with someone who hasn't done anything wrong. Either way, try to keep guilt at bay. Falling out of love with someone doesn't make you a bad person; it just means your feelings have changed, which is completely natural.

3Be honest with yourself.

When love starts to wane, we often tell ourselves that it's just a phase or that our feelings will change. While that may be true in some cases, chances are you need to end things if the negative feelings have persisted awhile. Trust your gut, be honest with yourself and do what you need to do.

4Think ahead.

Focus on the future as you let go. Think about how good you'll feel when you start fresh instead of fearing life without your ex. Your life can only change for the better once you end a relationship that isn't working, so embrace the new life you have ahead of you.

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Comments on "How to let go of a failing relationship"

Theresa August 13, 2012 | 3:57 PM

I think it's normal to think about an ex every now and then, but if that person is who you still want to be with, it's only fair to not be in a new relationship. Be honest with yourself, like the article states. It's not fair to be with someone when you're still "in love" with the ex.

MS.OO7 April 15, 2011 | 1:10 PM

I HAVE FEELING THAT I FEEL SHOULDN'T BE THERE.I'M IN A GREAT RELATIONSHIP NOW, BUT STILL FIND MYSELF LINGERING ON ABOUT THE EX WHEN CERTAIN THINGS HAPPEN THAT REMINDS ME OF SOME WE MAY HAVE DONE. HOW DO I GET OVER THIS TO MOVE FORWARD IN MY NEW RELATIONSHIP?

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