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Why you're going after the wrong guys

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Stop attracting Mr. Wrong

There comes a time in every single girl’s life when she must take a long, hard look at the parade of men who haven’t worked out. We break down some of the reasons you're continually attracted to Mr. Wrong.

Stop attracting Mr. Wrong


You have low self esteem.

You may not realize it, but a lack in the confidence department can have a profound effect on the types of guys you pursue. If you don't think highly of yourself, you don't go after guys with relationship potential; instead, you end up with men who can't commit and who are just in it for a good time. If you want to meet a better crop of guys, work on boosting your self esteem and falling in love with yourself first.

Also: Check out how to know if he's just a hookup >>

2You don't want to commit.

If you're not ready or you're scared to make a love leap, complaining about all the duds you're meeting is easier than going after someone who's actually boyfriend material. If this sounds like you, take a deeper look at why you might not be ready for long-term love.

Also: Check out 8 signs you're falling for someone >>

3You don't know what you want.

While you shouldn't be too picky (you might miss out on something great if your scope is too narrow), you should have a loose idea of what you're looking for in a partner. Try making a list and revisiting it before and after you go out on dates to see how you're progressing.

Read more about finding love: Understanding what you need >>

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