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How to make sex a priority

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Putting sex first

Many couples go through periods when sex just isn’t a priority for one or both parties -- but sex is an important part of a healthy relationship and can be a great stress-reliever. Read on to get some tips for bringing sex back to the forefront.

Putting sex first


Schedule it.

Adding "have sex with husband" to your calendar might not seem sexy, but if you both lead busy, fast-paced lives, you may not have a choice. Once you do this for a few weeks, ideally your appetite for lovemaking will return and you'll be reminded of how much fun sex can be and how much it can improve your relationship.

2Spice things up.

If a sexual rut has you putting sex on the back burner, why not try spicing things up in the bedroom? Try introducing a sex toy into the proceedings, sharing bedroom fantasies or experimenting with new positions. Whatever you try, just knowing that things will be different this time should get you excited and more likely to make time for sex.

3Talk about it.

Discussing the fact you're not having sex is never easy. It can feel awkward, and it becomes easy to blame the other person or feel inadequate in some way. But if sex is no longer a priority, you need to talk about it. Avoid blame or guilt; simply talk about what's standing in the way of your intimacy. Chances are, once you discuss it, you'll have a much better idea of the issues and how to deal with them.

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