It's late. You're nicely snuggled under the quilt, drifting pleasantly off to sleep. Your sweetheart nuzzles the side of your neck and you snuggle deeper into the bed. He says "Ah come on, just a quickie."
Your response is:
If your response is #1, you belong in the Playboy Hall of Fame and your mate should worship you daily.
If your response is #2 or #3, enough repeats of this scenario and your significant other may sniff outside his territory.
I know, I know, you shouldn't have to have sex when you're not in the mood. Agreed! And that's what rainchecks were invented for -- or when you can't or just don't wanna.
If your usual response is "OK, whatever, I guess I have to" with the ensuing lackluster duty-sex, he feels your lack of passion. He's horny, not dumb. You're better off giving him a raincheck for when you are willing to fully engage.
If your usual response is to groan, sigh, and "not-tonight" him, give him a raincheck so he knows he's not being personally rejected, just that his offer of tonight's nookie is being declined.
How do you give a raincheck? You do it with sweet promise:
"Honey, I would love to make love with you, only tonight, I can't do it justice. I want to be fully there for you when we do, cause it's so great when we're both turned on, so how about a raincheck for tomorrow/this weekend/?"
But beware -- a raincheck is only valuable if it's redeemed. You can't welch on a raincheck, that's not playing fair.
Now if you offer the redemption before it's even called on, why then you get bonus points, and that can lead to a lot more fun!
In the mean time, make sure your guy feels loved, appreciated and not rejected.
Check out these 5 ways to make your man feel special >>
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