Why aren't you in the mood to have sex?

Jan 06, 2011 9:58 AM by Kori Ellis

Posted in Love & Sex / Orgasms & Sexual Health / Libido & Sexuality

What's Causing Your Low Sex Drive?

Lack of sexual desire can be physical, psychological or due to relationship issues. If you find that most of the time you aren't in the mood lately, locate the origin of your low sex drive and then see what you can do about it.

Common physical causes

Alcoholism
Hormone imbalance
Medications (or illegal drugs)
Medical diseases (anemia, cancer, diabetes, high blood pressure and other disorders)
Pain during sex

Common psychological causes

Anxiety
Childhood trauma
Depression
Past sexual abuse
Poor body image
Stress

Relationship problems

Infidelity
No longer in love
Poor communication
Unresolved arguments

What you can do?

See your gynecologist and medical doctor to see if there are any medical issues behind your lack of libido.
Talk to a counselor or sex therapist -- with or without your partner -- about psychological causes and relationship issues.
Communicate with your partner about what you want in the bedroom.
Exercise and eat right.
Reduce stress in your life.