It's not like he's incapable. He talks with his friends. You hear him laughing and practically gabbing on the phone with the guys. You remember well during the first couple of years how you treasured his easy flow of communication.
He says "Wow – Discovery Channel says sharks are like dogs – they can sense fear, and they won't attack you if you're not scared."
If you answered a, b, c, or d – that's what happened. Because your automatic response to pretty much anything he says is either to dismiss or ignore it, he's clammed up. It's a natural reaction. Why on earth would your husband want to share his thoughts, opinions, much less feelings, if all you're going to do is dismiss them or shine them on!
When your husband offers a thought or an opinion, listen up. Don't just "uh-huh" him, offer something in return. Doesn't have to be much, just enough to let him know that you care about what he thinks and feels, that he matters to you.
Of course, if you feel downright enthusiastic about the subject, do feel free to go for it! Your husband will shed his clam-self remarkably quickly.
Relationship therapist Dr. Sheri Meyers shares telltale body language signs that your partner is not listening to you.
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