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5 Signs he's having an affair

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Is he cheating?

Do you suspect your significant other is having an affair? Don't start making wild accusations just yet. Watch for these signs that he might be cheating and then decide what you are going to do about it.

Is he cheating?

signs of an affair

1Spending more money

Is your husband spending more money than usual, and you don't know where it's going? If he's taking a significant amount of cash out of your account, it could a gambling problem -- or payment for hotel rooms and gifts for his mistress.

2Change in behavior

If your husband starts acting differently toward you -- for instance, a lack of phone calls and no interest in talking (or having sex) -- this could indicate an affair. Positive changes can be a reason to be suspicious, too. He might buy you flowers without reason because he's feeling guilty.

3Working late

Too many late nights at work or business vacations without you are classic signs that a man may be having an affair. Next time he calls and says that he has to work late, offer to bring dinner by his office and see how he reacts.

4Changes in appearance

If your favorite couch potato has taken a new interest in fashion, grooming and working out, he may be trying to impress another woman. Of course, he might just be changing his lazy ways.


Gut feeling

The most accurate sign that your spouse is cheating is typically your gut instinct. If something just doesn't feel quite right, you may have good reason to believe your husband is being unfaithful. If you generally are not a jealous person, your gut feeling could be right.

Now what?

No matter how many signs of an affair you find, you must confront your partner about your feelings and suspicions. Cheaters usually don't confess right away. You may be able to figure out what's going on by his reaction, though. Once you find out for sure that he's cheating, it's up to you whether you want to fight to keep him or walk away.

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