Think about it: If you're at dinner for an hour and a half or so -- especially if cocktails are involved -- you might just start revealing too much information about yourself, or worse, you might hear way too much information about him. Before you know it, you're beginning a sentence with "And when I was 4..."
Or how about that sexy fireman who finally asked you out? He might start telling you how he really feels about every little thing. After all, he just got into therapy for the first time in his life. Cue the Kleenex. For him.
And all you really want is for him to rescue you from a burning building or fix something or tell you that you look pretty. Oh. Wait. Is that just me?
A third point of focus is anything that is not about you, him or the date itself. In other words, try something new on your date and get busy. Activities are fun!
The first rule of activities: Keep them fun and playful. How about going to a driving range and hitting some golf balls? No clubs? No worries... Go miniature golfing.
Consider going to a museum and sharing your knowledge of art. Or let him tell you everything he knows about art, or about the time he lived in Spain for a year and his ensuing obsession with El Greco. See, you're swooning already. (Sorry, that's me again...)
I'm a huge fan of physical activities (other than sex, people!) because they get you back to that childlike state of play, and your endorphins start firing and then everybody feels good. So get out there and enjoy your unique, creative and extra-fun date!
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