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Dating again after a long-term relationship

Tristan is a love stylist who, through internal and external makeovers, guides her clients on all matters surrounding falling in like, falling in love and falling into bed. She is also the author of MENu Dating: Taste Your Way to the Mai...

Back in the saddle

Nervousness and apprehensions about dating again are perfectly normal if you've recently gone through a breakup. Your heart is probably just now feeling whole again. Why on earth would you want to throw it back into a sea of potential heartbreakers? Because if you still believe in love and you still want to be in a relationship, you have to. That said, prepare yourself by following this three-part process to cleanse your heart, mind and body -- and prepare you to jump back into the dating pool curiously, comfortably and confidently.

Physical healing

Not only can heartbreak leave an exhaustive mark on us emotionally, it can take a significant physical toll, too. Whether you've been under/over eating, losing sleep or sleeping all the time, you need to feel healthy to feel great about dating again. Follow these steps to get back into great dating shape.

Back in the saddleTreat yourself to a mini makeover.

Get a haircut, highlights, a new outfit, a new makeup style, etc. Don't go extreme on your makeover -- just a little alteration to make you feel renewed and fresh.


The best way to heal your heart is to get it pumping. If the last time you recall your heart rate was high was as a result of an argument with your ex or a massive crying session, it's been too long. Preferably, work out outdoors to absorb the tremendous benefits of sunshine.

3Don't put love on hold until you feel your dating best.

It's guaranteed that if you wait until you achieve an appearance goal, when you meet it, you will create a new excuse to hide from dating. Date now, while you work on your goal.

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