Before even considering dating again, though, you need to do some dirty soul work. This involves honestly examining your past relationship to extract every last bit of learning you can from it. By doing so, you can use your ex love constructively to get to your next love. Follow these five steps:
Identify what you would like to feel again in a future relationship and what you vow never to feel again. Both of these lists will be a commitment to yourself to move upward in your relationship journey, due to the knowledge acquired during your last experience.
No matter how horrible, terrible and no good your ex may be, the "victim" always has a part to play in a relationship's demise. Playing the blame game stores anger in your heart, which you will inevitably carry into a new relationship.
Accept that the relationship was required on your dating journey, and be thankful that it ended not a day later than it did. When you can truly let go with peace in your heart, you can allow new love to enter.
Develop a picture of what would make you the most dateable version of yourself, internally and externally. Concentrate on your strengths, and create an action plan to become whatever is missing in your picture.
No matter what the circumstances of your breakup were, don't look at it as a failure. You are just as, if not more, worthy of love today. Know that you will find love, a better love, in the future.
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