Don't let the humdrum day-to-day routine drag your marriage into a slump. Refresh your relationship by revisiting (and refreshing) your goals. Here's how to set goals with your partner in nine steps.
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Combine your lists, organizing them by individual, joint and family goals. Prioritize each area and then the list as a whole, ensuring that you give each person's respective individual goals equal attention.
Once you've zeroed in on the most important goals, get specific about how you will achieve them together. For each goal, even an individual one, both members should play a role. Couple goal setting is as much about achieving your actual goals as it is about strengthening your bond.
See if your mapped-out goals pass the time-tested S.M.A.R.T. test. Are your goals Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time Sensitive? If not, revise the goal and/or plan until it meets these criteria.
Write them down
Write down your goals and the path to achievement, clearly. Post them where you both can see them, such as on a bathroom mirror.
Be flexible with your goals. Set mini-milestones or intermediary checkpoints for reevaluation. Don't hesitate to modify the goal or timeline as needed. Remember that progress is success.
When you reach your goals, or even sub goals, celebrate! Celebrations help keep you motivated.
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