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10 Rules for bridezillas

Sonja Holbrook is a regular columnist on who enjoys writing about topics like men and dating.

Brides gone wild

This may come as news to you, but your wedding day is not the one day of your life where you're allowed to become a screaming, demanding shrew. You'll have the rest of your married life to be that way. Your wedding day is a celebration and demonstration of love and commitment to your partner. While stress and anxiety is part and parcel of the wedding process, this does not give you the right to abuse everyone around you. They'll wish they'd saved the $100 on your wedding gift and gone to In & Out instead. To avoid the often irreparable damage that comes with demonic possession, add these items to your day planner, right along side your 'Thank You' list.

Brides gone wild

5Expect the unexpected

It's not just Murphy's Law, it's the law of the universe. Anything that can go wrong will.

There's nothing you can do about it. Something will go wrong, even if you don't hear about it until after the fact. The caterer forgot your nephew is allergic to peanuts and is serving stir-fry, your florist forgot Aunt Rose's allergies and gave you lilies (this happened to me), your priest is running late, your dad is in the hospital, your fiancé has the flu. You get the idea.

Stuff is going to go wrong. Just accept it. You'll spare yourself a lot of stress, and everyone else too, by being as organized as possible, but also be willing to shrug off the stuff that honestly doesn't matter. Is your family healthy? Is your fiance still smiling at you? Are your friends by your side? Yeah? OK, then everything else is just details.

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6Be gracious

We all have that one person in our family who insists that the wedding is about them. More often than not, it's not the bride. It's either a parent or a grand-parent.

My sympathies run to the bride in this case, because there is nothing more annoying than someone else trying to plan your day. However, because this person is usually family, you must tread carefully.

Be firm, but be gracious. "Thank you, Grandma, for your opinion. I'll certainly take it into consideration. Would you mind telling me about tulips?" You know you don't care what she thinks. You know you're buying gardenias instead of tulips. But it's a smooth way to get someone off one subject and onto a harmless one.

Tons of people will give you their unasked-for opinion. Always know you won't be able to please everyone, so don't try. Just smile, honey. Say thank you and assure them that you'll consider their opinion. With zero committment, you can soothe their vanity, so just listen to them and move on.

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