Here's the not-so-good news, followed by the better news. We see a lot of theatrical screaming in sex scenes on TV, but IRL, only an estimated 57 percent of women are having orgasms every time they have sex — and most of the time, it's not from vaginal penetration alone. The silver lining here is that you can control your orgasm as you get to know your body better and choose the sexy sex positions that are the right fit. Specific positions targeted to the female can make the elusive orgasm become a reality.
For all the ladies who can't think of the last time you had the big O — and for the women who just want to do it better, harder, faster, stronger — these mind-blowing sex positions are for you.
"With the woman on her back and her hips on the edge of the bed, the man penetrates her while standing. She then puts her legs over his shoulders and tilts her hips slightly upward. This gives a wonderful angle for cervical stimulation, with deep penetration that can produce some intense vaginal and uterine orgasms. With more shallow penetration, a man can stimulate the anterior vaginal wall to hit the G-spot."
— Dr. Madeleine M. Castellanos, a psychiatrist who specializes in sex therapy
"A couple starts off in missionary position. Once a man penetrates a woman deeply, he allows her to bring her legs together between his. He then shifts his weight slightly forward so that the shaft of his erection is producing firm pressure and friction on her clitoris as he moves. This works very well for women that prefer to have clitoral stimulation during penetration to reach a very powerful orgasm."
— Dr. Castellanos
"Either partner can perform this technique, although the bottom person's hands may be more able to pull it off. Form a ring with thumb and forefinger around the base of the penis. Then pull down so the skin on the shaft is taut. This exposes more nerve endings and increases the penis' sensitivity. It can also help maintain his erection. Engage in intercourse with your hand still encircling the base to send his pleasure soaring."
— Jaiya, new world sex educator and author of Red Hot Touch
"This is my favorite. It's when the woman is lying on her back on the counter or table while he enters standing. It's rough. There's pushing aside of papers, pepper shakers, which add to the sense of urgency and inappropriateness. It's easy to maneuver and move the woman to slide along the counter. There is still contact. He goes deep and feels in control. It works all the way around. The keys are clothing, stuff in the way and being in an open space. Still allows for connection while feeling dirty. It just works on so many levels. It's not about acrobats. It's about context."
— Margaret Wagner, sex expert and founder of Bedroom Matters
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