10 Signs he's cheating on you

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Is He
A Cheater?

Studies reveal that 50 to 60 percent of married men engage in extramarital sex at one time or another during their marriage. Often the women in their lives have no clue what they did. You need to have some basic knowledge to protect yourself. So how does one spot a cheater? Here are 10 warning signs that your man may stray... or that he is already cheating on you.

Unfaithful man in bed

1He has cheated before

Undoubtedly, past cheating behavior is the most reliable predictor for future cheating behavior.

2He is a narcissist

People with narcissistic personality traits feel that they're entitled to more things than other people. They're more likely to cheat because they feel they don't have to play by the rules.

3He has no sense of guilt

Men who don't feel remorse or guilt when they do something wrong are prime candidates for cheating. They won't have those emotions holding them back.

4He's an excellent liar

If he is good at lying about other things in his life, then he is likely good at lying to you about cheating.

5He learned it at home

If one or both of his parents were routinely unfaithful, then he is more likely to be inclined to cheat.

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milder June 16, 2013 | 10:52 PM

I have been wth my boyfrend one n half year n sunddenly he has a password on his 4ne. N I hve found messages in his 4rm dis lady dat I don't knw . She was telling him dat she is srry n dat he was harsh. So I dnt knw wats da srry is 4 . I asked him n he said there's nthing going on btwn them . I even called dat lady n she said thres nothing happening btwn her n my man . So plz help do u think he's cheating???

Jessifer June 14, 2013 | 2:18 PM

I have been with my fiancee for 7+ years. I cheated on him 3 years ago and he forgave me. I have always been suspicious because I have been cheated on many many times, however, my "spidey senses" have never tingled this much. We have been very open and honest about everything since day one and when I cheated, I told him within hours and it hasn't happened again. He says that he never would but if anything were to happen he would at least be honest like I was. Now he's suddenly not interested in me physically, he never speaks to me, he comes home from work and hides in the bedroom. I have access to his phone but he knows I check it randomly (not frequently but completely at random) and it would not be hard to delete the messages. I was hospitalized in August of last year and when I got home, my dog was playing with a thong that wasn't mine. I don't know what to think because he keeps telling me it's all in my head and in the past it has almost always turned out to have been in my head (I caught him with porn a few times). Am I losing it? Should I relax or should I be worried?

Libby June 12, 2013 | 8:18 PM

Come on ladies our gut instincts are a tool we tend to ignore.. I learnt to listen to mine and kicked my partner and father to my children of 23years to the kirb after giving it another go after finding out wht he was up too.. No regrets myself and my children who reside with me are all happier.. U grieve, cry, anger but it gets easier thn u realise what a waste of time they really are... I have been on my own for a year and am loving finding myself again... My ex always accused me of cheating i gave up trying to prove i never would and didnt only to find out hed been a pig for years... As for these woman who they cheat with well he is knw doing the same with her and totally dislikes me because i have not spoken to him since the day he left. My advice1. Listen to your gut 2. No contact at all hard whn u have children but there are otherways for kids to contact dad, 3. Learn to love yrself again 4.suround yrself with family and good friends... Goodluck ladies we all rock

nicky June 12, 2013 | 6:52 PM

I feel all u ladies who have been cheated on. I'm married now for 8 months, thought and believed that a cheater will change but guess what its only getting worse.I have been dating my husband for 5 years we have a 5 year old and since I was preg up todate he cheated.I used to say oh I love him I can't loose him, his my sorce, my best friend, my baby dady and to fall in love again to find another cheater or worse kind. All this above lies keept me in the relationship, what amazed me is that when friend gosip or hurt us or our siblings hurt us we can't forgive or forget but man trully distroys us completely and never appologize and yet we ladies can still hold on and believe things will change. While dating he really hurt me so bad that the woman he cheated on told me everything he told her about us. It even came to the extend that I moved out n she moved in, while being out his begging n crying for me not knowing what's going on I moved back just to find her knocking on the door after her long day from work. This was not one of the first neither the last but I forgave. Just to find out 8 months married while sitting with me on our bed whatching tv, his chating with his colleque @ work about , I don't know why I asked for the phone to check something not suspecting anything and there she replyed. I was instantly cold, 6 n half months preg, n this is what I get again. That is the moment I said I'm done, I had it, have no job, crying,seeing her picture she also a pretty, I felt empty, distroyed bitter and helpless but I'm positive and don't and can't forgive any longer. I'm thinking how to leave with my kids its not easy but I know its for the best. All I can say is I found him cheating and I will him cheating for another woman like me. This decision is not easy but I find more peace with it and pray the time I leave I won't look back. Love is a beauty and should be enjoyed it what God give us, so if it hurts most of the time n nice less of the time, ladies is it trully worth it. My mum once told me that woman are like a R100 note, wet it, mess on it, crush it, roll it up but throw it down and see if any one will pick and see it value. God loves us too much to go through pain that we alow because of not knowing ur worth.Jesus died for us because he loved us can ur man die for u?

Zumi June 12, 2013 | 7:00 AM

I have been married for 6 six years, and my husband has been loving and faithfully. I have been having access to his phone and that has not been problem. Recenlty he started shouting at me if i touch his phone. Now he hides it, he even sleeps with it in his pocket. One day he forgot it in the house while he was outside. i saw a lot of calls to/and fro different ladies. I confronted him, he swore that he has not slept with anybody but he has temptations. I am so broken i do not know what to do, all my trust is gone. I do not know whether he is cheating or what.Should I leave him?

Moony June 06, 2013 | 2:30 PM

If there are children.. how we should dail with this marrige? Marrige could ever servive without love and treast..?

Maria June 06, 2013 | 3:35 AM

I've been married for 26 years around January 2013 I found out my husband was having anfair with some lady in Facebook that he didn't know at and lives far from here. I confronted him and he said he was sorry its been over . But now I feel him different again I don't understand why he does this I'm very lovable , honest , everything what a man would want I'm not even ungly at all . What is he looking for out there. I feel so a loan in this marriage :(

Sonja May 31, 2013 | 9:44 AM

My heart aches for these ladies that are emotionally tied to these "boys"...yall deserve better...the real men can't find you because your thinking with your hearts.....take a stand and say...IM DONE...it will hurt...but we are strong...if you can birth a child, you are INVINCIBLE. ..STOP THE MADNESS....

julia May 29, 2013 | 3:40 AM

My boyfriend sent a picture of his "junk" to some random chick and at an earlier date he asked to have a threesome.i love him like hell but i dont like cheaters and if he does end up doing that im gone.but i dont know whether to stay or gone...before i get hurt even more

wanna May 27, 2013 | 8:01 AM

Well me and my boyfriend been together for five years now he cheated on me twice dat i kno of i thinks he start back cheatin he always accuse me of cheat all the time i cant go no where cause he thinks i goin to see a man he steal fro me i dont kno wat to do i love him so much every time i try to leave i cum rite back to him i need sum help

jen May 13, 2013 | 10:13 PM

I am not sure if he's cheating. We have been married 2 years and he's showing all the signs. We have 3 kids together and I ask him all the time. There is no ever and he says that's not important. I'm so scared. I'm y and back to a size 3 after the third child. I'm laying here while he's fast asleep so hurt and confused.

tomicT May 13, 2013 | 4:30 PM

You're "hoping he can change"? Wow! Why waste your time with someone you hope will someday change when you can spend it with someone you hope NEVER WILL?

Christy April 09, 2013 | 3:31 PM

I have been with my boyfriend for 2yrs now. I found a picture of him on the internet with another woman on the back of his motorcycle. The picture had the license plate so i compared the two before i even said something. He still denies it! I am so heated..i love him and i want to run the other way and take a stand but for some reason i find myself staying. I know he loves me but in order for me to have closure on this whole thing and start over he needs to man up and tell me the truth. I know it's going to come to me calling this woman. Yes, i have her #. I am feeling ever kind of emotion right now. Usually i am stronger person than this but i love him & want to make this work. I'm sure i'll be kicking myself later for staying..my friend said "A leopard can't change their spots" i guess i am hoping he can change. Wish me luck.

Arabella March 30, 2013 | 9:19 PM

I am currently going through this whole mess of infidelity. I am engaged and we have a son together. I know the woman who he is cheating with. We have spoken several times but have never seen one another. She tells me every time they meet or have . I feel so empty now cause im at my witts end. I want to make it work because I am still in love with him and we have a child together, but I know I deserve better. The crazy part is, I know exactly whats going on and he still refuses to admit what he is doing. I have no idea what to do anymore. :-(

breezy March 14, 2013 | 6:49 AM

While I understand many of the points some of the commenters have made, I am very wary of those that make excuses.If your marriage/relationship is not working, fix it don't use it as an excuse to cheat.The foundation of any relationship is a willingness to work at it on the part of BOTH parties.Relationships are hard and require work.People are unique and complex and their needs vary ,there isn't a handbook on what your individual partner requires, which is why honest communication is vital.If your hurt your wife doesn't appreciate you (or you think she doesn't) tell her.If you would like your husband to spend more time with you or give you time to yourself,tell him.Yuo'd be surprised how different your perceptions of your relationship can be.

roseingram March 06, 2013 | 11:21 PM

The CHEATER is the cheater. And a man who cheats is THE ONE who's cheating. Be a grownup and get out of the relationship that isn't working and look for one that does. If SHE cheats SHE'S the cheater. Own up to your responsibility for your own actions. When YOU do something it's YOUR fault.

tina shegog February 25, 2013 | 4:19 AM

i think my partner is cheating on me he use to tell me who he was talking to when he is on the phone and everytime his phone goes off and its a msg i ask who the msg was from he says its an update of something on his phone but i know the sound of a msg and he had a real estate lady try and get it on with him he says he wasnt interested but he has her phone number still and he has changed his password on to his e-mails but he knows mine i show him all my msgs he even checks them if my phone goes off and i am not in the same room what do i do

Priya February 22, 2013 | 7:32 PM

I have always said I would leave him if he cheated. It is a tough decision to make. I have always suspected but knew in my heart I will find out for sure one day. That was two days ago. I now understand temporary insanity! I need to cool off first but I will definitely leave. Trust is gone!

Danochka November 18, 2012 | 5:37 AM

Me personaly don't trust any men ! I date them for fun and plesure only! Buy not getting to close is a perfect approach for me :)! Been hurt twice and I won't allow it to happen again :)

Eva September 09, 2012 | 11:47 PM

Worst list ever... i'm sure there are other better signs than "he recently lost his job" or "his computer habits have changed"

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