Avoid Relationship Drama

If you want to avoid major drama in your relationship, resist the seven habits below that are known to ruin otherwise healthy relationships.

Young couple fighting in public

Criticizing his family

No matter how you feel about your boyfriend's family, making it known to him just how much they drive you crazy is bound to drive an irreparable wedge into your relationship. Even if he, himself, thinks his relatives are bonkers, no one likes to hear others bash their blood relatives, so it's best to hold your tongue when the subject of his family comes up.


You may think you're doing yourself a favor by keeping up constant surveillance your boyfriend's blog, Facebook and Twitter habits; however by being aware of the minutiae of his whereabouts and thoughts, you're more likely to overanalyze his habits as they relate to your relationship and do more harm than good.

Fighting in public

It's natural for couples to have the occasional argument, especially after being together for any significant amount of time; however, fights that become so uncontrollable that they regularly spill out into the open are an embarrassing and damaging relationship problem that should be nixed.

Letting yourself go

Not only is it bad for your health and overall well-being, but letting yourself go -- whether that means gaining weight or not caring about your appearance -- after settling into a relationship is one habit that sends a bad message to your partner: if you stop caring about yourself, he may assume that you've stopped caring about him too.

Trying to improve him

Many women think they are helping the men that they're with by trying to make them over, however, by doing so, they only end up causing more problems for the relationship. Think of men as being similar to dogs: they may be able to learn a new trick or two over the course of a relationship, but if you think you can turn in a pit bull into a poodle, you are going to be in for a whole lot of heartbreak.

Allowing problems to fester

Everyone would like to think that they have the perfect relationship; however, if in your quest to avoid creating drama in your relationship, you frequently allow things that upset you to go unsaid, you are doing yourself and your partner a great disservice. Good communication is the cornerstone of any happy, long-term coupling.

Lying to him

Lying to your boyfriend for any reason does not bode well for a successful future together. Just don't do it.

What do you do to prevent drama in your relationship? comment below.


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Comments on "7 Habits that ruin relationships"

Carrie June 12, 2012 | 7:45 AM

I don't think any of these will necessarily ruin a relationship. It also depends on where the relationship is at. If you're married, it's pretty normal to be guilty of these things every now and then. It's best to not be critical though, of him or his family, even though it may be a challenge.

Kayleigh January 19, 2011 | 4:49 AM

I wouldn't neccesarily agree with this - if the relationship is truly healthy, not just based on mutual sympathy or ual attraction, but on real love and respect for each other, it won't be broken by any of the above mentioned bad realionship habits. Damaged - yes, but never broken.

Mononoke September 30, 2010 | 1:59 AM

I think #1 is for women who do not live in the same house with they're boyfriends family and boyfriend. i think if the parent(s) is purposely poking your buttons you are aloud to vent about it. and i have no one else to vent to but my boyfriend because he doesnt like me telling my friend about his family problems. so choose one....I vent to friend or I tell you how much I dislike your mom to your face. I love you sweaty. by the way...my boyfriend sent me this only because of #1. im done venting now.

whyonnett jennings August 31, 2010 | 12:16 PM

It gets wars aftear 34 years.

Lovekraft August 28, 2010 | 7:20 AM

is there any doubt that feminism has instilled an undeserved sense of entitlement in modern women? Our loss of traditional manufacturing, guild-based employment brings for the rise of administrative, service work - work which is anathema to men, but quite suitable for women. So when you combine this with academia, media, courts etc being anti-male, no wonder men are being placed in two camps: whipped manginas, and the ghosting men going their own way. No solution is in sight until society recognize men's achievements/contributions, and tone down feminazi mentality.

Susan January 20, 2010 | 5:50 PM

My boyfriend and I had SO much drama in our relationship caused by other people, mostly my ex's family, so what we did was completely but ourselves off from just about everyone of them and some of the friends we had that were also friends of theirs'. It was not an easy thing to do, but so far we have MUCH less drama, and our relationship has really grown. If you love the one you are with, and you want or need things to change, you have to do whatever it takes to make each other happy and you just have to make certain sacrifices in order to keep that love very much alive and to keep it growing.

Cathy Newton January 09, 2010 | 9:03 AM

I feel this article is directed to the women messing up. What if a woman starts off treating her boyfreind/husband like a King, then he begins to do all of this on top of abuse you?

Faiza December 24, 2009 | 1:48 AM

i respect ma component as he and himself!

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