How to give a good wedding toast: 4 tips

Nov 13, 2009 2:54 AM by OneWed.com

Posted in Love & Sex / Weddings / Wedding Etiquette

What You Should Say

Public speaking is often listed as one of people's biggest fears. If you need some help putting your wedding toast together check out these top tips from OneWed.com.

Wedding Toast

1. Have a glass of wine, but just one

Having a drink can help calm your nerves, having more than one can move you into embarrassing anecdote territory.

2. Practice

If you're not used to public speaking, don't try to wing it. Think about what you want to say, write it down and practice it. If it will make you feel better, bring note cards, but don't write out the whole speech.

3. Stay positive, stay clean

This is not the time to tell "funny" jokes about how hard marriage is, or to make allusions to the couple's sex life. Remember, not everyone at the wedding is part of the inner-circle, so try and avoid overly personal remarks. These remarks will work better at a more intimate rehearsal dinner or bridal shower.

4. So, what should you say?

If you're the maid of honor, best man or other guest try this formula:

Thank the hosts of the reception (the parents of the bride and or groom)
Short intro about how you know the bride/groom or couple
Why the bride/groom is a wonderful person
Why the bride and groom make such a wonderful couple
A nice wish or hope for their long marriage

If you're the bride try this formula:

Even if your parents aren't paying for the wedding, it would be nice to thank them for helping to make your dream wedding possible
Thank all your relatives and friends for being part of this wonderful day
Lastly, thank your groom's parents for giving you this wonderful man
Encourage everyone to dance and have fun!