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Pickup lines that work on him

Tristan is a love stylist who, through internal and external makeovers, guides her clients on all matters surrounding falling in like, falling in love and falling into bed. She is also the author of MENu Dating: Taste Your Way to the Mai...

Make the first move

Want to set a guy on fire from head to toe? Instead of playing the wallflower and waiting for him to approach you, try making the first move yourself with these foolproof pickup lines. Don't be shy -- guys are pretty easy to snag because, no matter what you say, they are just delighted not to have to be the aggressor for once. Be fun and flirty!

Woman flirting with guy in bar


Sounds sort of obvious and perhaps a bit generic, but it works! "The point is, be honest and direct," says The "Fake little lies and cheesy lines don't work on women and they don't work on men." Guys just aren't used to girls approaching them, and your confident friendliness will be refreshing to him. Besides, who doesn't return a hello greeting? Certainly not a worthy guy...

"Can you help me?"

Maybe you've noticed your new crush has a cool new gadget for which you just so happen to be in the market, so ask his opinion on it. Or maybe you are reading a book and need a definition for a word that he may know. Guys like to feel smart and useful, so giving him the opportunity to help you will make him feel special, and therefore, interested in you.

"I like your (fill in what you genuinely like on him: shirt, accessory, smile)."

Find something you like about him, such as an article of clothing. Don't just let him know you like it; include a question about it to keep the conversation going. Girls are lucky -- we get complimented all of the time, but guys rarely do.

"Want a bite?"

Say you are sitting in a cafe, eating a piece of decadent chocolate cake. Offer the cutie at the table next to you a must-try bite. Not only is eating dessert a sensual experience, but also you will appear generous and open. Chances are, he will take you up on your offer, giving you the opportunity to engage in conversation.  Plus, we could all use one bite less of cake, right?

"Oh, I'm sorry..."

As you reach for the sugar at Starbucks or maneuver your way in a not-so crowded bar, gently but still noticeably brush by a man you've spotted. Follow it with a coy, "Oh, excuse me," to signal that you are interested and to bounce the ball into his court.

"You're cute, and I got sick of waiting for you to come over and talk to me."

There is nothing wrong with going up to a guy and just saying what you're thinking. "The point is, be honest and direct," says The "Fake little lies and cheesy lines don't work on women and they don't work on men."Although you become more vulnerable to rejection with this one (who knows, maybe he is waiting for his girlfriend), you will never wonder, "What if?" If nothing else, you'll just get more practice talking to guys. On the other hand, if he isn't waiting for his girlfriend, this undoubtedly will get him smiling, and chances are he will engage in conversation.

A few lines that don't work on us, but do work on him

  • "I saved this seat for you" is a great direct invitation.
  • "Will you go home with me?" The pure shock value alone is guaranteed to get his attention.
  • "You look just like [fill in hot celebrity here]." It's a bit cheesy, but the instant ego boost is sure to light up his face.
  • "Will you watch my stuff for a minute?" It's a subtle way of letting him know he is the chosen one.


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