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Don't let work, kids, your girlfriends or your crazy schedule get in the way of your relationship. It's time to get out of your routine and spice things up, and SheKnows knows just what will do the trick!

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7 tips to keep romance alive:

Have a weekly date night
Take turns deciding what each of you would like to do each time. Have fun being together, just the two of you, for a few hours each week. Go out to eat, on a picnic, for a walk, play miniature golf, to the office and fool around, go bowling, and on and on.

Drop it!
Let go of all the past crap he's put you through. Start fresh, right now. Begin making new memories. Discover each other all over again. After all, he's dating a new, wonderful, wild woman. Let the woman be fully present on your "dates."

Be passionate
No more little pecks on the check, little shoulder top hugs, or weak "love ya's." Come on, you empowered woman! Go the distance. At least once a day, kiss him like you really mean it. When you hug each other, make sure you give a full-blown, juicy, full body bear hug (stiffness or tense hugging does not count). When he says "love ya," stop what you are doing, walk over to him, look him in the eyes, and say "I love you, too. I mean, I really do love you!" Enjoy the feelings this invokes.

Do something a little extra
Leave love notes, send cards, take him out to dinner, dance with him or for him, make him lemonade and cookies or his favorite cocktail... just for him, and just for the heck of it. Try these fun ideas from the SheKnows Love Experts:

Notice him
When he comes home, stop for a minute and welcome him home. If he's home before you, acknowledge his presence in a loving way. Remember, you are healed and whole now. This will make you feel good, like you are giving him the precious gift of being loved by you.

Take vacations together
Make sure that at least one vacation, even if just for a weekend or one full night, is just for the two of you. SheKnows is full of romantic travel ideas to get you planning!

Renew your marriage vows
"Jim and I went to Las Vegas to the Mission of the Bells chapel," says McClary. "It was great. The re-marriage package included a limo with a bar and TV (I had to promptly confiscate the remote), the church service, minister, music, flowers, and champagne. It was perfect! All that was missing was an Elvis impersonator to "give me away!" We honeymooned at Caesar's Palace. The best part was that my ever-awakening husband planned every bit of this. A Real Love marriage, and honeymoon -- aah, life doesn't get much better than that!"

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Comments on "How to keep the romance alive (and hot!)"

Katie January 18, 2013 | 1:02 PM

Thanks for this. I definitely like the tip about letting go of the past. Honestly, this is hard for me, but I like the idea of a fresh start. We all make mistakes.

Tina July 02, 2012 | 4:58 PM

This was just what I needed. I think it's easy to get stuck in the routine of marriage. It's so important to keep things new by doing little things for eachother and really appreciating eachother. Simply acknowledging your husband when he walks in the door and giving him a huge hug will make him feel needed and desired by you.

olumide November 03, 2009 | 4:32 AM

am cool. and i want to even be a member November 02, 2009 | 2:09 PM

I think there are certain things that you need to do to bring the passion back and it's doing the same things you did back when you first started dating. That will let them know you are working to rekindle it. Then you should do sweet little things that you would have had it been a new relationship. Don't let yourself get lazy. Here are some ideas.

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