Attention Cougars!

Looking to date a younger man? Here are 4 steps to getting that hotter, younger guy to fall for you -- and doing it with class and sass!


From Mariah Carey to Demi Moore, it's no secret -- being a cougar is a trend. If you haven't caught on, a "cougar" is someone who's dating a man who's significantly younger than her (like 10 years their junior)! Some women are intimidated to go younger, but my friends who have given it a shot, have only good things to say. "Younger men have more energy," says Allie, who wants to land herself a younger boyfriend. "They're also quite sexy and way more fun."

Has a younger man piqued your interest? Don't be scared. It's easy to be successful in this endeavor. For the right man, a relationship may be in store. If not, then at least a lot of fun will be had.

How to date a younger man

Step 1: Put Yourself Out There

"There's this guy that I like -- he's about seven years younger," explains Allie. "I think he hasn't even considered a date with me because of our ages, but he definitely flirts with me." Allie is going to start to put herself out there. If he knows that she's interested, he'll probably bite. "I think the only thing holding him back is the fact that he doesn't know that I'm interested," she adds.

Follow in Allie's footsteps and be assertive about your wants and needs. The younger man might be even more attracted because of your candor. It's sexy to many of them.

Step 2: Be Young at Heart

Brandon, a 31-year-old who loves cougars, says he doesn't even realize that some of the women he dates are significantly older. "I'm attracted to their sophisticated personalities," he points out. "Aside from that, though, I think they have just as much energy as girls my age -- some are even more fun and way more spunky. Go figure."

Ladies, it's important for you to be so young at heart. If you're 50, acting your age might mean staying in on weekends and doing chores around the house. Refrain! Go out there and have fun just like the younger generation. Hit up the clubs, go dancing, socialize. Just because you're older, doesn't mean you have to act boring.

Step 3: Highlight What You've Got that Young Girls Don't

Bonafide "cougar," Janine, says that as a woman of a certain age, you have so much more to offer than girls the age of the guy you're trying to get with. "I have more experience -- in life and in the bedroom," she points out. "The young guy you want to go out with should know this, so make sure you show him what you've got." For instance, don't be afraid to tell him about your experiences -- again, in life and in the bedroom. That should entice. Careful though, don't get too raunchy. Keep the talk informative, not icky.

Step 4: Be Your Awesome Self

Whether you're younger or older, it doesn't even matter. One thing is for sure: Confidence is key. Age is nothing but a number, and if you're super-awesome and love who you are, the boy won't care how old you are. He'll just be attracted to you, period. Know who you are, have fun, and show him your amazing, zesty personality.


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Comments on "How to seduce a younger man"

Andi March 11, 2014 | 4:01 PM

Hey, now where is your confidence???? You are older, ier, more intelligent (life experience wise) so you have it all!!! Why aren't you just taking the lead here??? If this is what you both want, what is stopping you??? He is a younger guy and we all know that men are much younger mentally than us women, don't we???!!! As my friend always says.....Take the bull by the horns and suck it and JUST DO IT!!!! Be assertive. xxx

Sheila February 26, 2014 | 4:53 PM

I am 50 and have a crush on a 33 year old from work. I have noticed him following me around and flirting a little. I started messaging him privately on facebook. We have been talking for about a month and a half. I was really mad at another man one weekend and just blurted out to him, I just want a cuddle buddy with no strings attached! He said, "you got it". We have talked about things we want to do with each other but haven't done anything yet. Had the opportunity last week and I was so nervous that I messed it up. He came to the house but I told him we couldn't do anything because my son (25) was due home any minute. We talked for 3 hours, just about general stuff. His back was hurting so I massaged his back for a good 30 minutes. I noticed that it turned him on but he made no moves. I think he is expecting me to make the first move but I am old school and was waiting on him. Nothing happened and now I feel like I might have messed things up. He isn't chatting with me as much as before. Any advice?

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