From Mariah Carey to Demi Moore, it's no secret -- being a cougar is a trend. If you haven't caught on, a "cougar" is someone who's dating a man who's significantly younger than her (like 10 years their junior)! Some women are intimidated to go younger, but my friends who have given it a shot, have only good things to say. "Younger men have more energy," says Allie, who wants to land herself a younger boyfriend. "They're also quite sexy and way more fun."
Has a younger man piqued your interest? Don't be scared. It's easy to be successful in this endeavor. For the right man, a relationship may be in store. If not, then at least a lot of fun will be had.
"There's this guy that I like -- he's about seven years younger," explains Allie. "I think he hasn't even considered a date with me because of our ages, but he definitely flirts with me." Allie is going to start to put herself out there. If he knows that she's interested, he'll probably bite. "I think the only thing holding him back is the fact that he doesn't know that I'm interested," she adds.
Follow in Allie's footsteps and be assertive about your wants and needs. The younger man might be even more attracted because of your candor. It's sexy to many of them.
Brandon, a 31-year-old who loves cougars, says he doesn't even realize that some of the women he dates are significantly older. "I'm attracted to their sophisticated personalities," he points out. "Aside from that, though, I think they have just as much energy as girls my age -- some are even more fun and way more spunky. Go figure."
Ladies, it's important for you to be so young at heart. If you're 50, acting your age might mean staying in on weekends and doing chores around the house. Refrain! Go out there and have fun just like the younger generation. Hit up the clubs, go dancing, socialize. Just because you're older, doesn't mean you have to act boring.
Bonafide "cougar," Janine, says that as a woman of a certain age, you have so much more to offer than girls the age of the guy you're trying to get with. "I have more experience -- in life and in the bedroom," she points out. "The young guy you want to go out with should know this, so make sure you show him what you've got." For instance, don't be afraid to tell him about your experiences -- again, in life and in the bedroom. That should entice. Careful though, don't get too raunchy. Keep the talk informative, not icky.
Whether you're younger or older, it doesn't even matter. One thing is for sure: Confidence is key. Age is nothing but a number, and if you're super-awesome and love who you are, the boy won't care how old you are. He'll just be attracted to you, period. Know who you are, have fun, and show him your amazing, zesty personality.
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