How To Tell
If He's Lying

He's been kind of shady, you say? You're not with him 24/7 and you just don't know what else is going on in his world. We don't blame you. It's natural to have doubts sometimes. So is he lying or is he telling the truth?

You can certainly ask him, but he can (err) lie some more. Don't be paranoid. Do your research first and then react accordingly. Not sure how? Read on for some signs that he may be lying. After you assess the situation, it's okay to take the next step.

1. The story always changes.

He goes from tale to tale and details don't seem to stay the same. He first told you he was out with the boys. Then, he said he was at happy hour with coworkers. If the inconsistency persists, he could be fibbing. The next step? We hate to suggest this, ladies — you may not have a choice — but do a little snooping. If he says he was with the boys, try to get the scoop from the boys.

2. He won't look you in the eye.

Experts say if someone can't look you straight in the eye, he or she is probably not telling you the whole story. No wonder your momma used this trick when you were little and she thought you were telling a tall tale.Study his body language when he's justifying something or telling you something that you think he may be lying about. If he's not able to look you in the eye, the next step would be to just come out and ask him. By this time, you should be able to tell if he's truthful or not by using the eye tactic. (Watch a fun play on reading a fibber's body language on the TV drama, Lie To Me -- a pic from which is below.)

3. The details are off.

Tim Roth in 'Lie to Me' FOX TV series - showing surpriseSometimes the details will be really obscure, or perhaps there are too many details. If your man gets too specific and is giving too much information, he may be compensating for something.People who are lying tend to over tell because they're hiding the very thing that they're revealing. If the man in question is giving you random details about an event or story, pry a little bit — ask some questions about said details. See if he trips on the specifics.

4. He's done it before.

Okay, it doesn't take a brain surgeon to tell you that if he has lied before, he may lie again. Not to throw the man under the bus or anything — of course, it would also depend on what he's lied about in the past — but you can never trust someone who's capable of making up stories too easily.Now for the next step... If he's made lying a habit and the lies are too huge to ignore and forget, you may want to consider leaving the relationship. If he lies here and there, and they're minor fibs, talk to him and get to the bottom of what's with all the lies. It might be the result of an insecurity. And if that's the case, then reassure him that he can be honest with you.

5. You have a gut feeling.

If you just know, we've got bigger problems. Whether he lied or not is no longer the issue if this is the case. You just don't trust the man. And what's a relationship if you don't have trust? Sit with your thoughts and come to grips with why you don't believe him. If the relationship is that important to you, after you do some soul searching and thinking on your own, sit him down for a talk. Work things through — find out what the problem is, and try to remedy the situation before it gets even more difficult.

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Comments on "5 Signs he's lying"

Cynthia November 21, 2013 | 6:38 PM

I have a man that im having a child with. we started out as friends, and escalated to lovers. we do not live together. so he started a job making great money. i was down on my luck and needed his help. i had given him hundreds of dollars. so first on his payday, he said they shortened his check by 2 days..making 20.00 an hour okay, so when he came to my home, he only offered me $40.00. I looked at it, and told him that he could keep it cause i don't need it. i needed at least $150.00 for a bill...was i wrong for not accepting? i feel like if you didnt and couldnt come through for me, then i do not want to start something i can't finish. i feel like i have been doing it all on my own, and at this point i have no respect for him, and dont want to deal with him any more!

Mel September 18, 2013 | 7:16 PM

I have been with my husband for six years and married two out of the six. We hav three kids together. I have a suspicion that he's cheating on me. He's done it before. Says he only does it cuz I accuse. He's secretive about who he talk Is o online, he feels the need to hide stuff...last friday he told me how was going for a walk..ended up being gone 48 hrs. I confront him and he says he went to a homeless shelter for men (we have a home) then last night he takes off again for 18 hrs. Says he walked from collage to home (5.5 miles...should take two hard) I'm sick of the like I crazy?

Alana July 25, 2013 | 9:58 AM

Lots of complaints from women here that can be easily fixed. First, when he's asleep you download a program to his cell phone that hides itself from him but acts as a tracking device. You upload the command program to your own phone, and you'll always know where he is. Second, if you think he's being unfaithful, hire a good looking woman to hit on him and see what happens. Follow it through all the way to setting up a meeting at a hotel, have her tell him to get naked in bed, then tell him she's going to get him something special and will be right back. That something special will be you. How is going to talk his way out of this one? Come on girls, quit whining and do something about it all.

JEANN July 10, 2013 | 6:05 AM

HI, I'have a boyfriend we are in relationship for 6yrs, ever since i heard many story about him dating another ladies. and he is married also? but still I want to be with him because i love him.oneday i found in skype his chatting to a ----- and showing thier own self on the camera,,, they are very dirty? and my relationship with him is not end up there. may 1 2013 i comeback from my vacation, i found kiss mark on his arms hiddin, from that time i always ask him,and end up to fight,and my doubt was killing me... He never stop lying to me and to his wife. I'am a fool f trusting him,,,oneday he close his door for me, he cant face me because i always ask him,,,but then i realize,,, its a blessing loosing him,,, his ------- jerk ruin my life

Dee June 14, 2013 | 12:54 PM

Man Suck they think they can do anything but if you did what they Do you would be called a s:That's what I told my husband.

ratshisuka mukovhe May 25, 2013 | 10:42 AM

Ladies all I can say is once a liar always a liar,I have been dating this certain guy four almost 8 years ,and he lied so much,I only found out last of last year that he has five children from different mothers,and when i confronted him he lied,and I didn't dump him cause of the love I have for him,and this time I have the proof for all the lies and am happy I walked away in time,and I hate him,

Linda May 17, 2013 | 7:55 PM

I dated a guy for 3 years found out he been living a double life I was never allowed to post pics or write about him on Facebook. He never introduced me to his family.. Someone emailed Monday pics of him his Children and his roommate in Floridia and out for Mother's Day., she not even His children mother.. He left me to go to Floridia and told me they are Just roommate when i questioned him he hung up called me names and now won't answer texts or calls.,, i Am heart broken.., i thought he was what i wanted in my life i guess i was wrong.. He lied to me Now he can't face or talk to me...

Christy March 17, 2013 | 9:44 AM

My friend of 20 years I have been seeing for a year lied to me about still being on a trip out of the country. His coworkers posted pictures of him and posts on facebook about the trip the week prior. After he texted the lie, I replied I thought it was last week. He then hide the posts on his facebook page. To me this is shady behavior. Happy to say I no longer have trust for this guy and now wonder what else has he lied about. I don't hear from him for weeks and then he lies. Am I wrong to walk away from this liar?

Brandy August 13, 2012 | 5:50 AM

I just found out my boyfriend has a facebook page. He will not show his to me but he has saw mine. I havr heard thing he has been doing behind my back. He also has a big family with five sisters and they are always getting involved in my business. Our seven year relationship is about to come to a fast end because of all the drama and lies. I'm so mad I feel like a fool!

Annemarie Conrod December 21, 2009 | 6:01 AM

Hi,I'm married 7months but we live separate due to his elderly father needing help on the farm. We fight about time together,n money. I know we care for each other greatly n want our marriage to work. We live 6miles from each other n he spends Wednesday,friday,Saturday n some Sundays at my house. When we r together, we enjoy our togetherness. I have trouble when he wants time occassionally on the weekend to car cruise with the guys because I feel this is our time n only time we really get to spend together. Am I wrong to want him with me every weekend? We spend only 3days together as it is. We r saving to oneday have a place of our on, but only after his father dies. How do we make this work? Thank u.

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