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5 really simple ways to talk dirty without getting embarrassed love/sex columnist Margeaux Baulch Klein is a freelance writer and lives in New York's East Village. She believes all is fair in love and sample sale shopping.

If you feel weird about talking dirty, you're probably overthinking it

No one's born a dirty talker (we hope). Just like any other bedroom skill, the art of the dirty talk is going to take some practice, along with a few super-awkward moments, until it starts to come naturally. If you've never painted a filthy picture with your words before, maybe it's time to dip your toes in the naughty waters and surprise your partner the next time you couple up.

Try one of these no-fail dirty talk shortcuts the next time you knock boots to maximize your pleasure and minimize your embarrassment:

1. His/Her name

They want to know that you're not visualizing someone else when you're with them or just phoning it in, so although it may seem basic, saying (or screaming out) his/her name in bed is a good way to ease into dirty talk. Punctuate it with a few "ooohs" and moans and it will be more than enough to heat things up.

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2. How it feels for you

If you're being a tad quiet, many will take the initiative and let you know what they'd like to hear by peppering you with questions, such as "What am I doing to you?" and "How does that feel?" In this case, simply describing the mise en scène and how you feel will suffice. However, don't feel like obligated to use cuss words if it's not your style. Instead, take a cue from romance novels and utilize under-used verbs like "pulse," "swell," and "throb."

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3. Your fantasies

Nothing counts when it's said in between the sheets, so if you're feeling confident, seize the opportunity and tell him/her all of your craziest fantasies. If the thought leaves you tongue-tied, try practicing in front of a mirror — especially the particularly naughty parts — until you are able to say them without feeling embarrassed or laughing.

4. Sexy phrases

Sometimes just having sex is intimate enough, and the idea of pouring out all of your deepest desires, especially in a new relationship, is too much. However, you don't want to be mute. For those times, any of the following stock sexy phrases will work:

  • "Oh, yeah, right there!"
  • "That feels amazing"
  • "Don't stop, harder"
  • "I want you so bad"
  • "Give it to me!"
  • "You animal!"

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5. Sound effects

Sometimes a little vocal encouragement is all that's needed to let your partner know that you are enjoying what they're doing. Sometimes a few soft purrs can be just as effective as a well-rehearsed speech, so don't be afraid to get creative. Whatever you do to cheer them on will make your bedroom romp all the more exciting.

Originally published Dec. 2015. Updated Sept. 2016.

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