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5 Things your partner wants you to say in bed that won't make you embarrassed

SheKnows.com love/sex columnist Margeaux Baulch Klein is a freelance writer and lives in New York's East Village. She believes all is fair in love and sample sale shopping.

The secret to dirty talk in bed is to not overthink it

Nothing is sexier than your partner being vocal in bed about what turns them on but dirty talk can be embarrassing. In the spirit of making it easier, here are five things your partner is dying to hear you mouth off about that don't have to be awkward or vulgar.

1. His/Her name

They want to know that you're not visualizing someone else when you're with them or just phoning it in, so although it may seem basic, saying (or screaming out) his/her name in bed is a good way to ease into dirty talk. Punctuate it with a few "ooohs" and moans and it will be more than enough to heat things up.

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2. How it feels for you

If you're being a tad quiet, many will take the initiative and let you know what they'd like to hear by peppering you with questions, such as "What am I doing to you?" and "How does that feel?" In this case, simply describing the mise en scène and how you feel will suffice. However, don't feel like obligated to use cuss words if it's not your style. Instead, take a cue from romance novels and utilize under-used verbs like "pulse," "swell," and "throb."

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3. Your fantasies

Nothing counts when it's said in between the sheets, so if you're feeling confident, seize the opportunity and tell him/her all of your craziest fantasies. If the thought leaves you tongue-tied, try practicing in front of a mirror – especially the particularly naughty parts – until you are able to say them without feeling embarrassed or laughing.

4. Sexy phrases

Sometimes just having sex is intimate enough, and the idea of pouring out all of your deepest desires, especially in a new relationship, is too much. However, you don't want to be mute. For those times, any of the following stock sexy phrases will work:

  • "Oh, yeah, right there!"
  • "That feels amazing"
  • "Don't stop, harder"
  • "I want you so bad"
  • "Give it to me!"
  • "You animal!"

5. Sound effects

Men can be just as insecure as women; so sometimes a little vocal encouragement is all that's needed to let them know that you are enjoying what they're doing. Sometimes a few soft purrs can be just as effective as a well-rehearsed speech, so don't be afraid to get creative. Whatever you do to cheerlead them along will make your bedroom romp all the more exciting.

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