MARRIED LATER IN LIFE
MARIE GAFFNEY, 49, AND NICK GAFFNEY, 48 SAN FRANCISCO
Marie and Nick married in their 40s — the first marriage for each.
Three-and-a-half years later, Marie is now a stay-at-home mom to their son, Quinlan, 2; Nick is a public relations executive.
Hard habits to break
"Nick and I both lived alone for so long that we've had to learn how to involve each other in our decisions," says Marie. "Last year, Nick decided to move his company from the office he'd set
up in our home to another space. He didn't mention it to me until he was ready to move! We had to talk about how this change wasn't just about Nick and his company — it was about the family
too. Things have gotten better, but we both will probably continue to work on it for years to come."
Timing is everything
"I've seen so many people jump into marriages, expecting the other person to fulfill whatever void they felt in their lives, only to end up disappointed. But Nick and I realize that no one is
perfect and you have to work through challenges together. Marriage is about loving and forgiving. Until you reach a certain maturity, you don't really get that."