"In order to orgasm from oral sex, you need him/her to use consistent, steady strokes," explains Britton. "The easiest way to do that is by licking up and down." But you're more likely to orgasm when his/her tongue is running across your clitoris. The solution: Your partner should be perpendicular to you (in a "T" shape), lying on his/her side. Working the tongue will be easier, and it's an angle that's optimal for your pleasure.
Put a spin on oral sex by getting a third party in on the action -- a sex toy. "While your partner is pleasuring you, have him/her lay a vibrating bullet against the cheek," suggests Olivia St. Claire, author of 302 Advanced Techniques for Driving a Man Wild in Bed. "It creates a hum that's not too intense."
You can put an extra-special twist on intercourse just by clenching your pubococcygeus muscle (the same muscle you use to stop and start the flow when you're peeing). "Squeeze the muscle tight around him and then let go as more of his length moves in," says St. Claire. "Squeeze again as he pulls almost out. Then repeat with each thrust." This creates a tight pressure around his penis, as though you're massaging it. The benefit for you: Your clenching motion creates pleasurable tension in your G spot and clitoris, making orgasm easier to achieve - and more explosive.
Who doesn't love getting naked? Still, there's something so primal about clothes-on sex. While wearing a skirt or dress, get on the edge of the bed. "It's a spontaneous, must-have-you-now move," says Britton.
Try this hands-on approach to increasing sensation during intercourse: Form a ring with two fingers and your thumb and gently hold down the skin at the base of his penis. "Pulling his loose skin taut brings the nerve endings closer to the surface, making him more sensitive," explains St. Claire.
Here's another way to make you-on-top more interesting: Squat over your partner rather than straddling him. "By supporting yourself on your feet, you get better ease of motion," explains St. Claire. "You can bounce higher and have more control of your movements, so your pleasure is intensified."
There are a million ways to adjust to achieve the perfect, er, fit. "If you want more friction during missionary, slide your legs together so that they're between your partner's," suggests Brame. "You'll have to start out with your legs flat on the bed, outside of theirs." For deeper penetration, spread your legs wider with your knees up.
When it comes to his below-the-belt area, you're probably more focused on the star than the supporting players. But you can make sex a heightened experience for him by stroking his testicles. "Softly massaging the area increases blood flow to his pelvic region, increasing his arousal and sensitivity," says Brame. "Then, as he's about to orgasm, gently tug on the loose skin around the 'boys' to amplify his big finish."
Call him/her your prisoner of love and they'll laugh. But pin him/her to the bed and they'll know you mean business. "You can take a fun and playful approach to the whole domination thing by pinning hands down while you're on top," says Brame. "It's a delicious tease because all he/she wants to do is touch you, and you're not allowing it." Of course, if you'd prefer that your partner take control, just ask!
You already know that the neck is a sensitive spot — little shivers and moans when you nibble at your partner's throat should clue you in. Still, there are a few nooks that will elicit even more of a "yowza!" reaction. "The line that runs from behind his/her ear down to the crook where his/her neck meets his shoulder is especially sensitive," says Britton. "You can lightly kiss other lesser-known hot spots as well, like along the jawbone and even the back of his/her neck."
Your partner may think they have seen every trick in the book, but show that you're still full of surprises with this oral sex move: While down south, slip your finger into your mouth and stroke him. "The unexpected texture makes it a pleasurable treat for him," explains St. Claire. The creativity alone will give him a rush since it's something he's probably never experienced before. For women, your partner can create a similar sensation by using their fingers and their tongue at the same time in different places.
Reprinted with Permission of Hearst Communications, Inc. Originally Published: 21 Little Sex Moves That Will Rock Your World (and His!)
Originally published Jan 2008. Updated Oct. 2016.
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