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21 sex moves you don't have to be a contortionist to pull off

Simple sex tricks that make reaching orgasm feel less like rocket science

Since when did sex get so confusing? We know we're guilty of reading way too many unrealistic sex mags, along with believing most of the stuff we see about screaming orgasms on TV, but things have gotten out of hand. Probably due to this (mis)information overload, many experts agree that the all-too-common orgasm deficit among women happens because we get so "in our head." Bringing it back to basics can make reaching orgasm so much easier — with no special sex tricks or skills involved.

Try one of these subtle moves this week to put pleasure at the forefront, and your partner may never look at you the same way again:

1. Get stoked

Sexy moments can strike when you least expect them. So seize the chance to spice up a night on the couch. "Have him use his fingertips to slowly, gently caress your skin," suggests sex therapist Gloria Brame, Ph.D. "The light, sensual touch creates a tingling sensation that will wake up your body while also relaxing you for sex."

2. Keep your panties on

Back in high school, you probably had rules for how far you'd go: under the shirt, over the pants, and so on. Well, the teenage you was on to something. "It can be pleasurable torture to play with each other over your underwear, teasing and stroking through the fabric," says sex coach Patti Britton, Ph.D. "You're building up the anticipation, so when you finally do have skin-on-skin contact, it'll be that much more explosive and exciting."

3. Make circles

Let's be honest: Most people are just grateful to be getting a oral sex. But that's no excuse to rest on your laurels. Rather than simply moving up and down, use your tongue to slowly wind around his member or her clitoris. "Swirl up the shaft with the tip of your tongue. When you're at the top, slide your whole mouth down and then up, with a sucking motion," suggests sex therapist Carole Altman, Ph.D., author of Don't Have Sex Again Until You Read This Book.

4. Give barely-there kisses

Rather than simply making a beeline for his below-the-belt region, create a slow burn with featherlight kisses. Start by kissing eyelashes, then the corner of the mouth, the jaw, and the collarbone. Next, kiss your partner's nipples, chest, down along the treasure trail and over to one hip bone, then the other. "You're building up anticipation as you make that slow, seductive crawl," says Altman. "And the randomness of your kisses keeps nerves on high alert as his/her brain and body try to figure out where you're going next."

5. Bend it better

For greater stimulation in missionary position, try this: "Hook your knees over your partner's shoulders," suggests Britton. "The angle puts more pressure on the clitoris, giving you a better chance of achieving orgasm." Clench your butt and lift your pelvis to create more friction and make your climactic moment even more mind-blowing.

6. Get a little rough

Give a jolt during sex by gently nipping your partner's shoulders or earlobe. "When you're in the heat of passion, you may go more into your head than your body," explains Brame. "A little pain snaps you both back to the moment."

7. Sit up tall

You love you-on-top because you can control the speed, angle, and motion; your partner loves you-on-top because he/she can just lie back and watch. But what lazybones might not realize is that sitting up can enhance the pleasure even more. "Not only can you both do more with your arms and hands, but the sex is also more intimate with your torsos pressed together," says Britton.

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8. Guess what's next

A little unpredictability during sex can make the experience even more intense for you. "While in missionary, have your partner tease you by mixing up the movements: slipping in just a little, going in halfway, and thrusting deeply, in random order," suggests Britton. Two short strokes followed by a long one, three deep ones in a row followed by two quick teases...you get the point.

9. Show off

Although your inner bad girl may get off on the idea of being caught in the act, the real you may not feel right about sneaking off to a bar bathroom. But you can feed any secret exhibitionist appetites by doing the deed in front of a window with the lights out. "Stand up against the window, facing out," says Britton. You'll get a rush from just the possibility of being watched.

10. Blow hot air

No matter what position you're in, you can enhance the experience by gently exhaling on each other's skin. "You're already feeling pleasure in your genitals, but this move adds soft, steamy heat to other sensitive areas like your neck, your nipples, or the inside of your wrists, giving you tingles from head to toe," says Britton.

Next Up: 11 more sexy moves for the bedroom

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