Secret Single Behaviors

Carrie Bradshaw stacks saltines -- she puts grape jelly on them. And she eats them, standing up in the kitchen while reading the latest issue of Vogue. It's her SSB. In case you missed that episode of Sex and the City, SSB stands for your "secret single behavior." It's what you do in the privacy of your own home (where you likely live solo) that no man you've ever dated or are currently dating knows about.
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I'm sure at some point or another, you can relate. What's your SSB? C'mon, tell us. You'll feel better. I'll go first — I buy steamed lobster at ShopRite once a week and eat it in my living room in front of the TV as I watch Top Chef on Bravo. It's one of the best feelings in the world. Partly because I enjoy seafood and reality TV, but also because I'm doing it in my apartment that I pay for with my own money. That's way better than being with some men.

These single ladies agree and reveal their SSBs:

Shh! SSBCherilyn laughed out loud for coming forward her with her single secret behavior. What is it? "My secret single behavior is that I'll prepare dinner for myself and talk it out like I'm on a cooking show … to my dog, who listens intently and avidly follows me around like a camera man would," she admits. Shh! SSBWhen Rhadika became single, she decided to change her sleeping habits. "I recently adapted something I heard on the radio," the elementary school teacher explains. "I used to sleep on one side of the bed, but since I've been single and wanted to feel awesome, I throw off one pillow, put one in the middle of the bed (for my head) and sprawl on the whole bed. Just me!" Shh! SSBHannah tends to pump up the jam, dance in her room, and stand in front of the mirror admiring herself. "I'm not embarrassed to have that published. Although I do keep my blinds down and get super-embarrassed if anyone walks in or peeks through the window. Still, I take precautions, but it's so much fun!" she says. "Every night, I also have been putting pimple cream on before I go to sleep. I look hideous when I do it! It looks like I'm highlighting my whole forehead with this stuff, but it works." Shh! SSBKrista, an outgoing fashionista, says she has more than one SSB, too. "I eat Chinese food on my couch while watching TV, vacuum up bugs, say "Hello, house!" and kiss my blankie bye-bye. Oh, I also dance around in my underwear, blow kisses at the mirror, and play dress-up." Shh! SSBGladys, a self-proclaimed obsessive-compulsive woman, had too many single secret behaviors to list here — it's like she does everything in secret. To name a few: "Weekend mornings, I eat popcorn while IM-ing a friend and catching up on Oprah reruns," she reveals. "I also always do a ‘VPL' (visible panty line) check before walking out the front door. But before I leave, I carry a current newspaper cut-out of sample sale listings in my bag at all times — you never know." Shh! SSBBrianne, a PR powerhouse, owns up to her SSB without hesitation. "Once a week (when I'm alone), I put on thick overnight foot and hand cream, and gloves and socks to bed. Super sexy!" Shh! SSBMarie, a fitness fiend and physical therapist, celebrates her body. "I used to wear shorts, but now I exercise in my underwear. It helps keep me on the elliptical machine longer, and I like seeing my progress." Shh! SSBFor Anita, a business development extraordinaire, enjoys baring, as well. "I romp around naked in my apartment all day long — not that a guy would complain if he were around," she says. "I also snuggle up with my teddy bear, and — when I'm really single — I skip on the personal grooming … Oh, is that why I'm still single?" Shh! SSBCreative director Jill's single secret behavior is a little more practical than that. "When I get home late from work, I cook dinner while doing a million other things like packing my gym bag and checking my mail. Then, I eat what I just cooked -- standing up in my kitchen -- for about five minutes," she laughs. Shh! SSBAnd for Dorothy, it's all about comfort. "The first thing I do when I get home — no matter what time of day or what I'm doing later — I come home and take off whatever I wore out and automatically put on my ‘comfy' clothes, which consists of sweatpants and an old, beat-up shirt," she explains. "I never walk around my house rockin' a cute outfit if I'm by myself -- unlike some girls."So spill: What's your SSB? Comment below -- and don't worry, you can stay anonymous!


Comments on "What's your SSB?"

Ashlee May 16, 2009 | 1:23 PM

I'm the only one of my friends who lives by herself. On weekends, I make a huge pot of coffee and take all morning to drink it while watching whatever cheesy movie that is on TBS. Or, I rent chick flicks or seasons of Grey's Anatomy on DVD. The best part about living by myself is knowing that my apartment is my domain!

marybella December 23, 2008 | 6:23 PM

I walk around my apartment with my cotton panties and confy tshirt with a glass of wine a cigarrette in my hand (yes, I know is bad for me) and google the most strange and weirds things in the world!!! like if a bugs pass by... i will google why those bugs are green or red. And yes... I am now full of lots of interesting and useless information! but the catchy thing is that today you can also WATCH that en the web, thanks god for youtube!!

Donnak88 August 14, 2008 | 3:34 PM

lol...gotta agree with the porn thing ladies..good to know I am not the only one who likes um... you know what:)

Anonymous July 18, 2008 | 6:41 PM

I live with my son who is 4 years old so it's hard to get any alone time, but when he's fast asleep-I'll throw in some porn and enjoy being a woman, and I usually change into nothing but an over sized t-shirt and lacy undies :) Back to being mysterious wishing I had a knight in dark armor to whisk me away to pleasure island, lol

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