Common oral sex mistakes

By Jennifer Chowdhury

Love & Sex | Apr 17, 2010 11:19 AM

Oral sex is a great prelude to the real deal. Performing oral sex during foreplay will surely lead to to a mind-blowing sexual experience, so make sure you do it right! Read on to avoid committing what most men consider the most common fellatio crimes.

Woman Biting Lip

Watch the teeth

The number one complaint men have during oral sex is getting bitten. There's an art to fellatio and the key to mastering it is to know exactly what to do with your lips in order to avoid your teeth scraping him. The best technique is to wrap your lips around his penis and suck it in. This will prevent your teeth from directly contacting his penis. "If she's liking what you're doing -- and you'll know because she'll be moaning and growning and bucking around -- then don't stop what you're doing. Men often choose the worst times ever to switch up their routine."

Keep a steady pace

Going at a constant rhythm gives men the most pleasure. A lot of women think if they go as fast as possible, it will cause their partners to ejaculate faster, but the truth is that it's the whole experience that contributes to his satisfaction. "If he's liking what you're doing -- and you'll know because he'll be moaning and growning and bucking around -- then don't stop what you're doing," say our friends at The Frisky. "Women often choose the worst times ever to switch up their routine." So, either speed up or slow down to create a steady pace and maximize your lover's bliss.

Handle his testicles with caution

The testicles are a very sensitive body part, which also makes it a hot pleasure zone. Increase your man's satisfaction by gently (the keyword here is gently) licking, sucking or tugging on his balls. Pulling too hard or biting them by mistake will not only piss him off but will send him shock waves of pain. Be careful when handling two of his most prized possessions!

Make sure there is enough lubrication

A good blowjob includes a crapload of saliva. If your mouth is too dry, his member will be too sticky and it won't feel smooth. As unsavory as it may sound, spitting on his penis is the best form of lubrication. For safer oral sex, using a flavored condom is a good idea.

Avoid choking or gagging

Oral sex definitely takes some getting used to and most men understand that if you're inexperienced, you are bound to choke up or have some sort of gag reflex. But, try to keep it to a minimum in order to not hurt your man's ego or make him feel uncomfortable. Don't try to 'deep throat' if you aren't up for it. Work your way up the fellatio ladder slowly and only take as much as you can. This will create a better experience for both of you.

Put some feeling into it

Oral sex should be enjoyable, so don't do it only to pleasure your man. If your heart (or libido) isn't into it, your partner will know.   Take an active role when performing fellatio. You might not be a professional or know some truly unique techniques, but your man can help with that. Ask him what he likes or doesn't like to get the most out of the experience.

can you make ejaculate taste better? Yep!

Not many of us crave the taste of man juice. (And if you do, ew.) But there are ways to make his post-ecstacy surprise a little more palatable. You see, diet can be a huge factor on how a person "tastes" -- ever see that episode of Sex and the City where Samantha hooks up with a guy who has "funky-tasting spunk"? It's likely because he craved stink-inducing foods, like steak and garlic. Our bodies absorb certain elements in the foods we eat, which can affect the way our bodily secretions smell and taste. (Hence, asparagus pee.)

So what now? Try having him take a supplement like BOP for Him $29.99, which contains things like vanilla, cinammon and banana,. These components have been proven to give bodily secretions a sweeter, much more pleasant taste. Yum? (PS: They also have BOP for Her, too, wink).