Reignite the passion

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Help him stay in love with you

Often the hardest aspect is trying to understand what the man in our life is thinking. Michael French, author of WHY MEN FALL OUT OF LOVE: What Every Woman Needs to Understand, explains why men fall out of love, and offers tips on how to bring some excitement back into any marriage or relationship. In his book, French presents a fascinating look at men's deepest feelings, identifying the key issues that can unravel even the tightest bonds, and has even identified the four top relationship busters:

• Loss of intimacy – when a man feels rejected by his partner;
• The quest for validation – which stems from low self-esteem, and a man's continual search for approval and acceptance;
• The perfection impulse – the tendency of men to mask low self-esteem with achievement;
• The fading of attraction – when men tell their partners they're no longer attracted to them, they're masking the real reason for their loss of interest – that they're not getting enough love.

"Libido is like a muscle — use it or lose it! That means you have to make a habit of lovemaking. The more you do it — the more you'll feel like doing it," says Jennifer Oikle, Ph.D, a psychologist who specializes in relationship coaching. So, ladies, you heard the doctor, go out and get some "exercise."

If that fails, there's always chocolate.